New man doesn't listen, is it my fault??

[Matthewsfab]

Met a new man about a month ago. I really like him which is rare for me ( standards super high after lots of crap relationships ) But I don't feel like he listens to me.
He has a fantastic and interesting life and is always telling amazing stories about things he's done. While I am pretty boring in comparison, in the way that I've not done half the things he has. I am intelligent and funny, I think!
So usually our conversations end up the same way with him talking a lot at me and me clamming up I guess because I don't like being talked at, I think I find it intimidating. When I do say something it seems he can't wait to interrupt and say his own thing.
I am a quiet person but usually with people I feel comfortable with I have lots to say. He is one of those people who find it easy to go on about himself while I am not. I need to feel like the other person is interested in what I'm saying by showing me they're listening by asking questions etc.
But could it be that he expects me to be more forthcoming like him and doesn't like to pry hence the lack of curiosity??
I have talked to him about this and he knows he prattles on and is happy to be told to shut up but I am unsure because I don't want to get serious with someone who has no interest in me.
Do you think this is because I have lower self esteem than him and need to be more assertive? Or is it a mismatch that won't improve with time?
Also I'd be interested to hear from people who are naturally chatty, what do you think of us quieter types?

[Ninasimoneinthemorning]

Actually most go of the OP which has quiet a lot of negative discriptions about this man of the poster.

I'd be intrested to see if he keeps up this new found way of interaction.

[Dozer]

Yes: great that you've talked to him OP, now remains to be seen whether he will actually share the "airtime"!

[springydaffs]

Great!

Good job you didn't listen to people on here

[Thefitfatty]

I'm ADHD and I'm a horrible "talker" and interrupter. I've spent years training myself to bite my tongue and not blurt things out, but when things get quiet I will go on and on and on. I DO listen to people though (although it seems like I don't).

Glad you talked to him, sometimes the most obvious answer (that he's a selfish twat) isn't the right one. :)

[Allofaflumble]

Yes good you got this sorted. Wish mine had been such a good result.

[YoungWillieMcBride]

Nina except that the OP is telling it from her perspective alone and in her words.

There are as many sides to a story as there are people telling it, and now she's heard his.

They might still not turn out to be compatible with each other, but at least she's given it a chance.

[Roussette]

I wonder how long it will last... him being interested in you and what you have to say.

I went out with someone like this. It was subtle and clever and I realised that everything was about him and his life. I was doing something quite spectacular at the time job wise (don't want to out myself and say what) and he barely showed one jot of interest in it and if anything avoided it (probably because it was more interesting than him and his life).

When we finished I did say... you never showed one bit of interest in me, my life, my job, nothing. He said I was interested, I was proud of you blah blah. Sod that. No he wasn't.

OP... just make sure he doesn't revert back after one date!

[CharlotteCollins]

OK, maybe this is just me being anti-relationships, but...

To me, this just sounds like he has an answer for everything and is quite proud of how great a boyfriend he is. (Is he a boyfriend yet or just a date? Oh yes, you're having relationship talks and this isn't the first, so this is serious already.)

Me too, Roussette, I've seen married someone behave like this.