Was your sibling frequently violent to you when you were growing up?

[user1468841624]

Just reflecting on my childhood, really.

I have one sibling, a brother who is older by 2 years.

I know DC have their squabbles and occasional scraps etc.

But my brother was consistently violent towards me. It didn't really stop until I was about 13/14. Was particularly bad from the ages of about 11-13 when we used to be alone together after school.

Not just the occasional slap, things like putting me into a headlock and running me headfirst into a wall.

I was terrified of him, there's still a mark in one the dining room chairs at my parent's house from where I put it behind a door handle to keep him out when he was trying to attack me.

Surely by 13/14/15 he should have known better than this?

I'm zero tolerance when it comes to violence with my own DC so find it so strange to look back on.

Sorry if this is a weird question, I'm in therapy at the moment and it's caused me to reflect on a lot of things!

[user1468841624]

Thanks for all of your responses, I've read and appreciated all of them.

I'm sorry to anyone who went through this as well.

I need to think what to do, now, as I don't think I've ever dealt with how it felt to grow up like that. It's really, really helped to have other's perspectives on this, so thank you everyone who took the time to reply

[Scrubbydubby]

Yep, my brother used to punch, kick and hit me. Acted like I was the most disgusting thing ever and would not talk to me/walk with me to the bus stop etc.
The last time I remember, he walked into the room I was in, punched me and walked out again, that was my 15th birthday so he would have been 17.5.

I don't speak to him and wouldn't care if I never saw him again.

Sorry to everyone that's been through similar.

[junebirthdaygirl]

I had a lot of brothers and sisters. We squabbled, took each other's clothes, teased a bit but not one of them ever laid a finger on me. Where were your parents? It's not normal and it's very painful thinking your parents didn't take proper care of you.

[Amandahugandkisses]

So sad reading this.
Seems to be v common. I grew up in a violent household too - we were all sisters.
I can't imagine what the older, stronger brothers were actually thinking doing that to their younger sisters. :(

[1950swoman]

Yes. My brother was 9 years older than me. When I was 2 or 3 he used to order me to stand on the hall rugs, then pull them out from under me and roar with laughter when I fell. It progressed to endless teasing, ordering me about and thinking up ways to frighten me. He used to shut me in my mum's wardrobe and tip it up. He used to lock me out of the house when my mum was out at work and throw water at me when I came near the house. He used to make me stand in the dark, spooky hall, then creep up and touch me so I screamed which was, of course, hilarious. Once I was older, lashing out and hitting me took over. I once went to school with a black eye. Verbal abuse also became frequent, I was told I was stupid over and over, laughed at, criticised, told 'girls can't do' thing after thing. I cut him out of my life about ten years ago after he tried to force a visit with his doted on daughter despite having ignored my own struggle to gain a degree as a mature student and the academic successes of my three daughters. If I ever mentioned the latter, he simply blanked me. Nasty piece of work. Hope he rots in hell.

[1950swoman]

My father had died. My mother was out at work. My brother was supposed to be looking after me. Ha, ha.