Didn't know whether to put in mental health or here but it's about us so here goes.
I'm so upset this morning. My partner has bpd and we have been together over 10 years, he has always had MH issues (although I didn't know the extent at first). Recently diagnosed as bpd. Anyway he's in a new ish job where he is stressed and finding it too difficult to deal with. For weeks all he comes home and says he hates his job and it's causing him to feel low and a lot of anguish and anxiety. I work part time and look after DD at home on the other days. I try to support him by cooking most meals, and all the weekly chores while he at work. I do a bit of job searching for him too and send him links etc. He comes home and I feel I do listen to him but he says same thing every day and I know so its probably to a point where I don't know what to say anymore. He feels now that I don't truly understand him, he's not happy as I make him feel like a second rate citizen by (as far as I understand) sometimes snapping at him for little things.
Yesterday our DD was asleep in car and my DP saw something and was like oh look it's ..... But he kinda got excited and was a bit louder. So I automatically say shush, you'll wake up DD! Maybe a bit abruptly I can't remember. Anyway I apoligised instantly as I knew I'd upset him and then he didn't talk to me all day apart from yes/no. This morning he came to talk and said I make him feel bad when I do that, and life is hard for him and all he wants is support and love etc. It hurts me that he thinks I feel that way, I try hard to make everyone happy. I feel confused most of the time. I tried to give him a hug but he was sitting with knees up so I said well move your knees then and he took offence to that, apparently not a genuine hug as I said that. Sorry for long post. I have absolutely no one to talk to.
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Partner with bpd. Am I a bad partner or is it his bpd?
BlipBlapBlop · 04/09/2016 09:39
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