Fucking bastard cunting prick!!!!

[NoCapes]

I hate this man that I live with
I fucking hate him

[deutschland83]

Ah capes I hope you are better, don't be afraid to talk to your mum. She sounds like a good one.

Get some bags of fruit and nuts from Aldi, they sit at the tills - next time you make it out.

I find them good fir a smash and grab snack.

Look after yourself, your kids have a great mum in you x

[SmallLegsOrSmallEggs]

We did the gaviscon thing too. It helped a little bit it was the omeparazole and prescription formula that made the difference.

Keep plugging away at them. Good luck. If you have never heard the noise a refluxy baby makes it is hard to imagine how mind wrecking it is all the while topped by the distress of knowing they are uncomfortable.

[CiaoVerona]

Glad to hear today is a tad better Capes hopefully the GP can help with the baby tomorrow.

[NoCapes]

pom bless you you lovely thing I actually have a brilliant support in my Mum, she has baby during the week while I shop and clean, we have tea there once a week, older DC have a sleepover every fortnight and baby sleeps over once a month
I could not live without her
If only my actual life partner was half as supportive!

[NoCapes]

Thanks all
We've already had a reflux diagnosis and he's on gaviscon - which makes him constipated
He's woke up today though with thrush in his mouth, so kind of explains last night
I'm going to the GP again tomorrow and I'm going to say if they don't do something I'm going straight to A&E and telling the staff there why
I was very close to taking him last night, only thing that stopped me was the other 2 DC in bed

"D"P has been eating humble pie all day - obviously, this is what he does
Don't care about him atm, going to put all my energy in sorting this poor baby out for the time being

[s88]

I second reflux .. my ds wold scream for hours on end .. usually around 4pm until 3am ! Ended up being prescribed gave son that goes into bottle for feed

[SmallLegsOrSmallEggs]

If your Dr won't refer you and you belie e the baby is in pain, next time he is bellowing his lungs out, consider A and E. I got no joy out of gp until I took mine to A&E and said I really cannot cope anymore.

They gave her orescription meds that canmot be prescribed by a GP and non milk based formula. Totally different baby.

[Thattimeofyearagain]

He is a twat.

[Rockelburger]

*sperm donor not sleek!

Is there any way to edit posts? I make frequent typos when have arms full of baby

[Rockelburger]

He needs a kick in the nuts. Selfish fuck.

Daydream away when you finally can leave him. Savour the ideas of your lovely life without him in it. He is not being a father, merely a sleek donor.

Also I find shreddies good to snack on when starving and baby being a pain. I eat them without milk so they don't go soggy and pick on them like crisps. At least they have some nutrients compared to crisps

[PomBearWithAnOFRS]

Q for baby snuggles I would do housework any day! (Not that I do my own, where's the reward in that?)

[QforCucumber]

Who is present

[QforCucumber]

pom I am in the NE with a 4 month old and a dp who is resent but you're more than welcome to do all that here haha.
capes hope baby manages to let you get a good night's sleep and you can look at things freshly in the morning.
I've found a constant supply of babybel, mixed nuts or tunnocks caramel wafers have seen me through many a screaming incident

[PomBearWithAnOFRS]

Are you in the NE (England) Capes ? cos if you are I will come and help you - I can do laundry, put a casserole/stew/soup or similar on to cook, and listen out snuggle muchly the baby while you nap/bathe - I'm not a stalker/weirdo honest but I do so remember that horrible swimmy-head, helpless, WTFFFFFFF!!! feeling of being so sleep deprived I couldn't see straight and my then husband just fucking off out whenever he felt like it and leaving me to Robot Parent as best I could [confsued]

[ohtheholidays]

OP with the baby if your Dr's being usless(which it sounds like they are)have a word with your HV they can get you referred.Your Dr is being an idiot,allergies can be very serious and your partner is being a knob as well.

Do you have any support at all OP,parents,siblings,other family members,friends?Anyone that could help out and give you some support,maybe watch the children now and again so that you can have some breathing space and catch up some most probably much needed sleep.

If you can get some good support for you with the children and get your baby referred then it should feel easier to give the wanker his marching orders.

[VioletBam]

Have you no shopping in OP?

[mathanxiety]

Can you insist to your GP that the baby is examined for reflux?

[SomeDaysIDontGiveAMonkeys]

Good you've had some nourishment. OP you'll do what you need to do for you and yours, when you're ready. You don't need to question yourself especially whilst you're so exhausted. Fuck him and just concentrate and you and your bundle of noise . You can strategise and get your ducks in a row in your own time. Sometimes it can make you feel heaps better planning your new life knowing that it'll be on your own terms. Get as much sleep as you can

[NoCapes]

Thankyou
Yes I did get a drink and some food (the pot of fruit, yoghurt and granola that is forgotten i'd bought from the cafe this morning - could've ate that ages ago! )

I know it would be easier to be single (I have been a single parent before anyone comes on to tell me I have no idea!) and it is much easier knowing it's all you, rather than the constant disappointment of having someone there to help and them just refusing

I don't even know why I stay with him I really don't
And yet here I am
I'm just so tired, I don't have the energy for a drama, which it inevitably would be
I just can't be fucked with it all

[SomeDaysIDontGiveAMonkeys]

Hi Nocapes

Glad baby has settled beside you. Did you manage to eat and drink something?

Tbh it sounds like you'd be better off being a single parent given the lack of support from your OH. At least when you're on your own you know where you stand. Is it worth (when you're more rested) looking at the pros and cons and weighing up your options of being single.

Anyhoo for the moment focus on you getting as much rest as possible.

[Dutchcourage]

Nocape don't allow yourself to fall in that trap where you believe it's easier to stay.

Things sound shit. He sounds shit. You and your ds deserve better.

[CiaoVerona]

I've read some of your other threads NoCapes you know you deserve better then this. Hope you feel better.

[NoCapes]

Sorry all my phone died
Thankyou all for the advice and solidarity

Baby is 7 months, I think he has some sort of allergy/intolerance or something but I can't figure it out and I'll be fucked if I can get the GP to refer me for any tests, but he is in pain, I know that much
He's actually settled in bed with me now

DP has form for this sort of thing, I have so many threads on here about him, he's an arsehole, he doesn't do anything with the baby, very little with the older children and goes out alot
And this is the first time I've ever rang him asking for help
I know I know, but I'm not in a state to leave him, so I just accept the crumbs of help that he offers sometimes because I genuinely need those 5 minutes every now and again

Another I am very aware of what having a baby is, I have 3. And just because some people are single parents it doesn't mean all women should act like it. Some people in the world don't have houses/running water/electricity either - should I go sleep in a field with my kids? Some people don't have food - shall I starve them?
Give your head a fucking wobble will you

[NearlyAlmostDidIt]

Are you ok OP?

[Lynnm63]

Unless there's a very good reason or you always find a reason to make him cut short any 'me' time then he should have come home.
I still remember ds1 screaming for hours for no apparent reason. When dh came home I gave him ds already strapped into his car seat and said take him away from me for an hour for my sanity and his safety. I could still hear the screaming in my head.
As others have said leave him and go have a coffee and a biscuit. It might not seem so bad in 20 mins.