I got dumped

[Devastatedflower]

I need some hand holding please.

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months and he left me today saying that I'm not up to his standard in sex. He said he was hoping I learn the skill over the time but he now realised we're sexually incompatible and he can't be with me any longer because we like different things in sex. We had perfect relationships otherwise. I'm totally devastated.

[monkeychop]

What a twat! Maybe if he had been more attentive in bed he may have seen more fireworks....you reap what you sow.

Tell him you find it difficult to get excited and feel sexy when his penis is so small.

[monkeychop]

What a twat! Maybe if he had been more attentive in bed he may have seen more fireworks....you reap what you sow.

Tell him you find it difficult to get excited and feel sexy when his penis is so small.

[Isetan]

There isn't an alternative universe where this guy wasn't an arsehole and the only reason you describe your relationship as perfect, is because you were ignorant of your bf being an arsehole.

Give yourself time to grieve for the man you thought he was and soon you'll realise that he did you a massive favour because still being with this arsehole, is way more depressing then not being with him.

[LellyMcKelly]

Just tell him he wasn't that great in the sack and bye bye!

[FructoseTart]

I was dumped when I was younger (14) by my then BF (he was 15) because I wouldn't sleep with him! (I was raped younger and didn't feel comfortable at all in having sex for a long time) We had been together for 9 months. It broke my heart at the time, but I see him around now and think I got a lucky escape! He can't look me in the face now either

[AyeAmarok]

I don't really believe people are different "standards" in sex.

You either click or you don't. Someone who is amazing with one person won't be good for somebody else. It's about the chemistry between two people.

He sounds like a twat. One who's talking crap to be intentionally cruel. Not a nice person. And probably too much porn, yes.

Onwards and upwards!

[Greenandmighty]

What a self-centered prune he sounds! You don't need that. You'll find a man who loves you and who you share a compatibility with in all areas. Sorry for your pain though. I hate the word 'dumped' - once you've dusted yourself down, you'll realise he's released you so you can find the love of your life. 🌸

[UpYerGansey]

An utter and complete twat.
Great that you found out sooner rather than later.
and for you tonight, shake your feathers and fly onwards and upwards tomorrow!!

[StartledByHisFurryShorts]

What a horrible thing to say. Forget the twat. Move on.

[contrary13]

I'll say to you what I said to my DD when she was dumped after 4 months, last October (by a total, red-flag-waving bastage of a "man")...

...

... you deserve better. MUCH better.

You really do, OP. My DD's now found a young man who adores her, who (seems to) treat her well, and "properly", whose entire face lights up whenever he sets eyes on her. They've only been together for a couple of months, so I'm not holding my breath... but my goodness, the difference between the previous boyfriend (there was a rebound between... who was a cross between the two!) and him? Miles wide.

You'll meet someone worth your time, OP. Someone who treats you with decency, kindness and respect. Who loves you for you - not for what you can do for him!!!

[longdays]

That's unbelievably rude.
How old is he?

You will look back on this and laugh at him.

[scousesal]

He did you a favour op he sounds awful .Now your free to find someone who deserves you.

[HooseRice]

Lucky escape there.

[PixieMiss]

You may not see it today, or even tomorrow, but in time you will see that you have had a massively lucky escape.

Take it easy today and

[OurBlanche]

That does sound like he set out ot be as nasty as possible. Bloody hell!

At my age I am grumpy enough to plaster that over facebook with a response like: I was hoping you would learn to be a nice human being, to have some manners, be less selfish. Sadly, it seems we were both disappointed.

But I know that isn't really going to be possible, it's just ne of those smirk inducing thoughts.

But you will find some revenge fantasy of your own to help you get over that "perfect" relationship only you though the two of you shared!

[LumpySpacedPrincess]

Sounds like he wanted to hurt you as well as dump you, you've dodged a bullet there.

[category12]

Nasty fecker. You're well rid.

[TheNaze73]

He sounds like a tool.

He sounds far from perfect, I think you've dodged a bullet there.

[Tearsoffrustration]

Sounds like a selfish prick to me!

I notice you don't say he was the best you ever had either

I agree he's done you a favour

[Mymakeup72]

Don't take it to heart. He probably watches too much porn!

Sexual incompatibity with one person could be fireworks with another!

He was cruel to say that but it has showed his true colours early.

[Loulou0]

He said he was hoping I learn the skill over the time

He sounds like a patronising, egotistical twat.
It's hard to be dumped , you'll feel like shit for a while but it'll get better and maybe you'll look back and be glad you only wasted 4 months on him.

[IthinkIamsinking]

While I think sexual compatibility is important in a r'ship, that was a shitty thing to say to anyone re: not up to his 'standard'.

A r'ship SHOULD be perfect after only 4 months.

[goddessofsmallthings]

Not up to his standard? What scores do you give him for technical merit and artistic impression, flower?

It's the tortoise and the hare. You'll be getting into your stride when he's a jaded wreck.

[Purplemonkeydishwasherpimp]

4 months isn't long to call it perfect!
You've had a lucky escape and I think he's done you a favour.
Wanker

[Plastictree]

He's a wanker. Cheeky sod.