Aworks.co.uk what is this

[user1465333936]

I typed in what is a work .co.uk and found I'm not alone .I came across the site on my partners bank statement last night .several times in one month every other day he made payments of ten pounds to that company I was gutted disgusted .I confronted him without telling him How I found it he totally denied it said he doesn't know the site and has never used prostitutes or webcam ect.he totally wouldn't come clean I told him you did that and even worse in my front room and god knows how many you have met .i confronted him again today and said you have been caught out I know you done it it its your bank and you paid that disgusting site for for those tramps .what would he get for ten pounds a time I don't know I haven't seen any other statements so I don't know how long it's gone on and how much he's spent .I don't know if I can get past this I don't know if I can let him touch me again I'm heartbroken I haven't a clue what to do I have never trusted him with good reasons he has always been sneaky and used private passwords on everything .I'm torn what do I do

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

This is a 4 year old zombie thread.

[tuttut90]

I used to work on AW as a webcam model. No.1 I’m not a tramp and made more than most doctors from it for a couple of years only work part time.
No.2 He won’t be getting anything for £10 I time I can tell you that for a fact 😂 and not with any girl who works on there. I used to charge 2.99 a min so £10 would be gone on general chit chat the girls know how to waste time to make the most money.

I’m not trying to undermine the fact he’s on there though OP, he’s still wrong and clearly interested in other women. These type of men never change unfortunately and I doubt you’ll be able to trust him again after this.

[tonyc1]

ps , adultwork is a cyprus based company ( offshore no tax etc)

[tonyc1]

awork is simply adultwork.com escorts , videos ,pics , phone chat , after reading what you have said £10 will get 10 credits which is a vouyer at most hes just looking at girly mag for 10 mins for 10 creds , being a married bloke myself hes just looking , ive been there and still adore my wife , but no need for him to be so ivasive about it unless hes embarased??????

[Feckers2018]

Yeah right Victor.

[victor1235]

This is an interesting one! I've just checked on Google because the fraud department for Barclays noticed this transaction coming out of my account. I obviously didn't make this transaction as it was from Cyrprus.

I checked on Google to see what it's all about, and this was the first link!

Very shocked as to how this could happen! I've been told that ATM's do occasionally get rigged and your card details can be taken. But this is the first time this has happened.

Any one else had a similar experience?

[adora1]

The BJ just highlights the fact that he's a self centred arsehole, you can do sooooooooooo much better OP, I hope in time you get rid of the creep.

[Cabrinha]

You didn't do anything wrong, love.

It was quite useful for me to find out my XH booked a prostitute on AW just 6 weeks into seeing his new girlfriend. I suppose although I knew it wasn't my fault there was a 0.0000001% of me that still didn't know that.

This is not about you, it's about him.

You know my view:

• he won't change, he'll do it again
  

But even if you thought he could change:

• you'll have a shit life because you'll be wondering and trying to go through his phone and degrading yourself stalking him because you'll never be sure (it's just not worth it, there are lovely men out there, plus single is better than that!)
  

But now you tell us he got you to suck his cock last night

• what kind of grade A arsehole responds to the situation that his partner knows he is cheating, by wanting sex - and very much a "for him" sexual act.
  

He really doesn't think very much of you, does he?

Google the "pick me" dance. FGS don't lower yourself to giving him blow jobs in competition with prostitutes

There is nowhere for this relationship to go when you know you can't even tell him to show you his adultwork account.

There are women on here who have come back from affairs, and the constant theme is HONESTY.

This isn't an affair though, it's prostitution. And as I said upthread that's s cold hearted calculated act and I don't think you can come back from that.

What kind of man expects sex from you when he should be BEGGING you to stay with him? He knows you're feeling too weak to end it. He thinks already that he just has to weather the storm and minimise it - because the minute you didn't end it instantly, as soon as you listened to his shit, he knew he was home and dry. And thought he'd get a nice blow job

Time to tell the bastard you're actually not pathetically desperate to keep him, and he can go pay to get his cock sucked, and not come back.

[hellsbellsmelons]

I'm not sure what else I can say.
You KNOW what you have to do.
For YOU and for your sanity.
But don't seem willing to make that move.
Take your time.
But stop giving him blow jobs FFS.
That won't solve anything and will make you feel more shite about yourself.

[goddessofsmallthings]

I'm not surprised that you are tormented by images of him interacting online with sex workers in your home, let alone knowing that he most probably subsequently fantasised about them while having sex with you.

This man is a liar and, while he's not a particularly accomplished one, the fact that he thinks you're going to suck his dick off when you don't know where it's been indicates that he's under the impression he's got one over on you because his feet are still under your table.

Please take heed of Cabrinha's posts and make it clear that you want his aworks user name and password so that you can make an informed decision as to whether you want to continue a relationship with a man who places his desire for prostitutes above you.

I would also suggest you tell him to get checked out for stis at a GUM clinic and make an appointment for yourself.

There'll always be someone here for you, but I hope you'll dig deep and ditch the liar so that you can find an honourable and respectful man who'll 'be there' for you in rl.

[user1465333936]

I'm here becouse I can't sleep .cabrinha I don't have his aw password when I first confronted him he didn't know I'd accidentally stumbled on the evidence .denying it when I said I have proof he said okay then what's my user name becouse I have never been on them sites I said you need to stop lying he replied I'm not I promise .I had to say the amount he payed the days he was on for him to realise he had been caught and I would say give me your password but I don't think he would ever do that .he tried when we went to bed for oral I couldn't seeing his eyes closed all I could think of was that he is with those women there pleasing him getting him off while he used me like a machine .this is going to tear me apart but I can't live a tormented life in fear of him doing this again but I can't seem to find the strength to do what I should what I know is right for me I just don't know what I did wrong to deserve this .no I never did anything wrong did I all I done was love him and help him to climb back up when he was on his knees financially I know I keep saying it but I'm so thankful for the support here iv got up becouse I'm finding it difficult to sleep and it's here I have turned to becouse I feel iv got someone when I come here

[Cabrinha]

Another thing... right now his promises come from fear (well best case scenario they do - worst case and also possible is he's just lying to you)

Fear does not change behaviour. Because all it takes is for the desire to one day be greater than the fear. That will happen. Time, complacency, fear receding (after all, even when found out he did actually get away with it) and the urge being strong... One day, that will be stronger than fear of being caught - the combination of urge, of thinking the risk is pretty low now...

And he'll do it again.

The only way for him to stop is not fear, but to not want to. How is he going to change his personality and desires?

How do you feel about being with someone who is only not cheating because he's afraid he'll get caught?

You could guarantee me I'd never be found out and I still wouldn't cheat. Bet you're the same. And I bet in your heart of hearts you wouldn't say the same of him

[Cabrinha]

Oh and your comment, that you told him that you'll be watching every move he makes?

I lived that life.

It is fucking soul destroying

I can't tell you how amazing it felt when my new boyfriend left his phone behind one day and I did not have any urge to check it at all.

That need to watch like a hawk? It degrades you. You will suffer for it.

[inlectorecumbit]

When you're head is much clearer and the shock has worn off a bit OP l think you will realise that he will probably do it again. Only he will be more careful and will hide it better. After all he had everything he wanted at home and it wasn't enough. What is so different now, it still won't be enough, it's like a fix-he needs his bit on the side.

Take your time -do nothing, agree to nothing. get your ducks all lined up in case you decide that this you can't get passed. Or when you catch him again.

[Cabrinha]

I'm so sorry.
But oh my god don't marry him!!!!!
You have your head screwed on.

I will say this... prostitute use is calculated. It's not a drunken accident (not that that's excusable!)
It's not the fun and excitement of discovering a colleagues fancies you (again, not acceptable!)
It is a cold hard decision that cheating is fine. You did nothing "wrong" - and if there had been issues, anyway he should have come to you. His actions were long term and repeated. So what stops him doing it again? When that urge takes him? Love, guilt, fear of getting caught... none of that stopped him before, so why would it now? What is he going to do to stop it? Because just saying he will won't stop him. Either it's a compulsion or he just didn't give a shit before. Neither of those reasons will mean he'll change his behaviour. There is something wrong with him, and "I nearly lost you I won't do it again" simply is meaningless. You can't trust him AT ALL. Bare minimum, I'd want to be there when he has it all out with a counsellor to find out why he let himself do it before. This is what he did during the good times love - what about when there are hard times?

To be honest, the pathetic and violent smashing of the laptop (evidence)
is red flag enough to leave him!

Have you actually been shown his adultwork account by the way? I'd want to see that, not just the payments.

I'll finally share my experience. My XH used AW - including buying sex. Turns out, he'd done it for years before he met me. I didn't know that til after. When I found it, I had all the "don't know why I did, I'm a fool, I'll do anything" crap. Like a fool, I just about believed the "I only looked" bullshit. Married him. But he carried on. I found out again. Divorced him. He doesn't know that I know his AW password.

Guess what? Within 6 weeks of meeting his next girlfriend (you know, the honeymoon period) he was paying for sex again.

I know you are going to hope that yours if different.

But what's more likely? That it was some random lapse that he can walk away from, or that there is something wrong with him?

He will do it again.

There is some need in him that you don't meet. And that's not your fault. You give him everything (FWIW I was 'better' at sex than my XH, I was open, willing, adventurous. But if they're after 'illicit', you can't give that.

Walk away.

[user1465333936]

I have poured my heart out here told how I have talked to him and his replies I haven't ranted I have tried to be reasonable .yes you do vent anger on not just your partner on the women he's doing it with its anger at both parties .am I doing the right thing believing what he says or will I regret it does everyone deserve a second chance the man I love and totally adore even though he's treated me like that .my head is all over I want the images to disappear from it he has also said lets go and get married please marry me he wants to to prove he loves me I have said no of course becouse all I can hear is the advice I have been given .will he do it again when the dust settles god my head is so messed up I know what I should do

[user1465333936]

Thankyou every one on here who has taken the time to post back to me when you have no one else to talk to it helps so much .i could never tell my son or my siblings what he has done .im still unsure if I can cope with it it is in my head I can see images of them in front of him and his hand doing that I felt like grabbing my face and ripping it off to get rid of the pain

[user1465333936]

And if he does find less public ways to do it and pay then he can go and see if they will wash his clothes cook his meals do his cleaning and be totally devoted. To him .its like everything when the novelty wears off or your caught and lose everything that's when you realise the grass wasn't greener but to late when you have lost everything and for what some sleazy bit of pleasure going nowhere but taking your bank balance down .like I said to him he has a daughter that is working hard to save every penny she can to better her life she doesn't have a lot but would ne turn to that for money she could have had that wasted money to help her .and like I said to him would you like it if your daughter rang in tears saying she had caught her fiancé using them sites and spending his money on them his reply he would. Tell her to dump him and be very angry so his next words were I know now how wrong it was and learned a very hard lesson I could have lost you and everything I told him your not off the hook I'm going to be watching every move you make and you won't be able to hide he swears he will never risk losing me for some prostitute site yes his words prostitute

[user1465333936]

1465320614. It's not okay to do that when you are living with someone your supposed to love and they are paying the bills .He charged his pad up to use that site with the electricity that I payed for so no it's not okay to do that to someone. He had everything the only thing I didn't do for him was wipe his backside but I may as well have .and now he has been on his knees begging for forgive ness he's told me he cannot live without me and will go to pieces .he has also said he will do anything I did talk to him and ask him why did you need to do this I told him you could have came to me and talked to me if you had problems we could have worked it out I give him everything he needs in the bedroom that most wouldn't when I asked him about why and other things he said he stopped when he realised they were shite his words not mine he said he doesn't know what came over him because he has everything he needs at home now he could be bulling me .he has a heavy head he knows he has caused me pain and before you go saying other things if I had caught him on porn I maybe would have just ticked him off but no it's not okay to cheat with live webcams you say men like a bit of porn well that is not a little innocence porn it's bang out of order if I done that to him what he has done there would have hell to pay I would have been accused of being a dirty cheat his first wife cheated on him so he knows what it feels like

[Cabrinha]

Fuck off, user
Webcamming prostitutes isn't "a little porn".

[user1465320614]

WTF the man likes a little porn from women he does not know. What I would say is why are you going line by line through his bank statements and if he knew that he is subjected to such scrutiny he should find alternative less public payment methods away from you.

[HarmlessChap]

Oddly enough the website has just been mentioned in The Sun
www.thesun.co.uk/news/1253142/primary-school-boss-quits-after-saucy-shots-are-found-on-sex-worker-site/

[goddessofsmallthings]

What Fidelia said. The grand gesture of smashing his iPad up to prove how sorry he is has conveniently ensured that you can't search its history.

Don't be fooled by crocodile tears as they flow as easily as the promises and lies told by the sad 'so very sorry' fuckers who shed them.

If he wants to truly prove how sorry he is he'll agree to live elsewhere while you consider whether you want to risk your sexual health with a liar man who has in all probability used prostitutues, or has every intention doing so, or find yourself a respectful and honourable man who is worthy of your love and affection.

[Jan45]

I mean to make it look less suspicious.

[Jan45]

Oh here we go, it's the prostitutes fault for luring him, oh paleeeeze OP, if it wasn't for slease ball men like yours then there'd be no need for women to have to do this to earn money, I've also heard that with Adultwork they post the payment intermittently like that to not make it look suspicious so there's every chance he's been visiting call girls.

Do the right thing and keep hold of your self respect.