Around 6 months ago I told DH that I wasn't happy. His family were too interfering and he was far too enmeshed in their lives. Aside from this, there were other issues: lack of sex, lack of quality time together, he was getting much more free time than I was and he wasn't helping around the house.
In the last 6 months, he's grown much more helpful and he's cut his free time down so that I can have some too. I've felt much better. However, things have come to a head with his family and I've told him that I need to go NC for my own sanity, he and DCS can continue to see them. This change he hasn't taken very well at all.
This was 6 weeks ago now and he has completely pulled away from me. He tells me he's fine, we're fine but he won't come near me, has lost all affection towards me and everything feels very uncertain. He tells me he probably feels angry with me for distancing myself from his family but he's not sure. I think he's probably annoyed with me for speaking to mutual friends about what's been going on too but I'm a talker and he isn't and I deperately need to talk about what's happened. I struggle to keep things to myself. I've tried to give him time to come around, I've been kind, we've been on dates, walks, I've tried giving him space but it's still the same. He says he still loves me and wants to be with me, but his actions say differently. What do I do now?
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When he pulls away, what do you do?
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razzlematazzle · 06/06/2016 09:08
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