Thanks Pan, that not texting back if you like somebody is not something I've ever read suggested as a 'rule', but then I haven't read the actual "The Rules".
- I try to move it to rl as soon as I think I've established there's some level of compatibility but that's the point they all run away.. I could leave it longer, but it is men more than women who would be the strongest advocates of meeting sooner rahter than later and I agree with that
- snap. My profile does reflect me. Maybe I seem to uncomplicated for the men I'd be attracted to.
3.I was suspicious of profiles that had just one close up face pic and nothing else.
ok that's interesting, I must put up one of my whole body, clothed, of course!
4.I did not respond to emails that just said ‘hi’
snap so boring!
5.I dated people within a 10 mile radius of me (I live in a city so admittedly there is a bit more choice) *yeh, the two people I dated/got close to (not the same), one lived the other side of my greater area and the other one lived 200 miles away.
6.I did not use the line ‘I love a good night in on the sofa with a bottle of wine and a good DVD’
ha ha! very sensible, I'd think that was a lazy man
7.If I enjoyed a first date I would tell the person soon afterwards.
yeh, that'd work for me, I'm very transparent. Too transparent I think
8.If I did not want to progress to a second date I would still send a polite thanks but no thanks text
what, even if the woman hadn't given you feedback either way??? I never know what to do there. Do you send a man a text to say no thank you when he hasn't said yes please :-p
9.If said person did not get back to me within a week of me calling/texting I would assume she is not interested or playing games, either way I would move on.
totally agree
10.First dates were typically lunch or a few drinks
i hate eating in front of somebody the first time I meet them, few chips maybe!
11.I would treat any women who refused to open her purse once during a date as being a bit tight or entitled….this is the 2016 not 1955
not guilty, always treated a man to drinks, or treated him the next time,, any sign of caution for being fleeced would put me right off though
12.I would treat as suspicious anyone who would spend the date talking about their ex
nope, so long ago
13. I would be suspicious of any women suggesting high end restaurants/venues for first dates.
never done that, but once a restaurant I suggested had gone upmarket since I went there last and I was really embarrassed, tripping myself up trying to express how upmarket it had gone since I last visited it and how I hadn't known about that
Don't dis all the rules. I've watched matthew hussey and matt boggs and adam lodocle. They're all pretty funny too. They give good advice. Just like, you're auditioning too! set your standards. hold on to those.
I've never NOT responded to a man's text, but i think sometimes if you get in to a volley of texts that begins to lose steam, I can be the first to allow it rest, for a while. Not just because I don't want to seem to desperate to keep the chat going, and, I'd rather meet up! I somethings think I'm the only one who'd rather actually meet up.
Anyway, thanks for your highly ordered numbered points! Another fear of mine is that men in their forties will chat for hours but will only leave the house to meet a woman in their 30s. I'm not sure if I'm reading too much in to all the men in their 40s who're prepared to spend hours messaging, but won't meet up. I wonder, why are they here if it's not to leave the house and meet somebody? So that somebody is not me. I'm not offering myself up as a counsellor so I'd like to make that clear in my profile but the moment you start putting any sort of coded message in to your profile you look 'hurt'. And I'm not.
My profile (I think) conveys that I'm sociable but in a balanced way. I value my core life (home, job, family, goals, health) as well as getting out there and meeting somebody.