DH and I have been in counselling for a number of months. We have a good relationship with the counsellor. During the process we've identified that I have some PTSD relating to birth trauma (and there is still some physical damage which I'm trying to get fixed) and I've been having some solo counselling to deal with that. Early on DH said that one of his issues is the lack of intimacy/sex between us.
Recently the counsellor (female) has been really pushing me on it. She's given me "homework" which basically amounts to forcing myself to have sexual contact with my DH, whether I want to or not. She thinks that making him "feel like a man" will improve our relationship. I would have to force myself because there are lots of unresolved issues day to day for me that mean I don't really see DH that way (and I certainly don't feel much attraction to him).
Just can't help but think that the "grin it and bear it" advice is a bit 1950s housewife. Has anyone any thoughts on this?
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Not sure about this advice from counsellor
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TerrorOnTheTower · 12/05/2016 19:38
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