Hi there,
I've had a quick name change as I feel pretty bad writing this on a public forum in case I'm wrong.
I'm worried that my male colleague is being abused by his wife.
His wife has a history of (mental?) health issues, it seems inappropriate to ask the details, but in general it seems to have led to some pretty needy and controlling behaviour, panic attacks, seizures etc. TBH I'm pretty grey about the details as I don't want to ask too much.
I've never met the wife, but I am on friendly terms with my colleague, so I've made it clear that I really sympathetic and that the team is flexible to his needs (i.e. when he needs to take time off to take care of her).
More recently he's started coming in with bruises and scratches on his arms and cheeks - he passes it off that he has been trying to keep her safe when she's been having a meltdown (or maybe actual seizure).
But I'm really worried that he is being abused, but I don't know how to even start offering help.
Does his explanation seem plausible, or is there something I can/should be doing to help?
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How can I help male colleague (and does he need help)?
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NewUsernameForTheDay · 10/05/2016 16:32
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