is this a red flag?

[AhSureIMightAsWell]

I was talking to my friend on messenger last night, we are in different countries so I've yet to meet her DP of around a year. Anyway, she said he has 'moody spells', where he'll be off hand and snappy but when asked, says nothing is wrong. Then the next day, if she's still annoyed with him about it; he'll put it all on her and demand she tells him what the matter is and then flounces off when she isn't all smiles and joy. From her perspective, this moodiness is common among men, whereas I am and think he sounds at best like hard work. I thought I should defer to Mumsnet for more perspective. Thank you.

[AhSureIMightAsWell]

I used to live with her and she wasn't overly moody but no, I don't know his side. I just thought it sounded a bit gaslight-y

[MyKingdomForBrie]

What a douche. That's not normal I wouldn't say.

[TheStoic]

He's moody. He might say the same about her. Hard to tell with only a snapshot from one side.