I posted last summer about how my marriage essentially pretty loveless, which i realised pretty suddenly. It was as if the scales fell from my eyes.
I decided not to do anything drastic immediately as I the oldest DC's are in exam years and I am very worried about screwing things up for them.
Since then I have had several discussions with him- which mostly consist of me saying what I think and him making minimal response, but then when I try to talk to him again saying; " I thought we'd sorted that out".
We had a very distant 4 months between June and November when he was finishing a course ( one of his interests, not related to his job) and he obviously put me on hold.
i have found out that when DC2 was a new baby, between 0 and 6 months he either had an affair or didn't because she said no. I was on my knees with tiredness and lack of sleep and he offered no help at all; just pretended he was single for a while.
My question is; if he behaved like that then, is it likely to have been a one off? Or is he likely to have done the same since? Would that explain the periods when he has been unaccountably horrible for no reason I can see since?
I'm sort of beyond grieving and being angry. I would just like to get to the truth.
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AtTheEndofTheRoad · 06/03/2016 09:53
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