Hi all.
So I've got two young DCs. 3 and just 1.
My 'D'P and I have massive issues. And I struggle with being able to know what a good relationship is supposed to be.
So over the past week these things have happened are they LTB territory or just work on it.?
- I had a massive crying fit after putting the 3 yo to bed and the 1yo wouldn't sleep so I tried to feed her. I was crying and my DP said what's wrong, I said "I'm finding it really hard with the 2 kids...." And I sobbed for ages explaining all the things with the kids.
Then he didn't say anything he carried on watching tv. I stopped crying and ten min later I said what did u think about me being upset you didn't say anything. He said "oh when, oh er, I don't think I was concentrating"
- Another time I bathed the 1 yo and she was playing in her cot. He had the 3yo downstairs and bought her up. He said what can I do, I said I don't know what's been done but DC2 is ready, DC1 needs teeth brush story etc. He said ok I'll go downstairs. I said no, I then started writing a text to friend v quickly and he said "listen to me" and made me feel bad for being on my phone. I have a big problem with him at the mo as he's always on his phone!!
I then said "no don't go downstairs bedtime is both our responsibility."(He's always trying to get out of it)
He took DC2 downstairs so I can get DC1 to sleep.
I went downstairs to get DC1 cuddly thing and told him I felt that everyday he does something hurtful and unsupportive and then told me to F off. I said don't say that in front of the kids.
What's going on here?
LTB?
Is he selfish?