I have two children and dp and I have been together on and off for ten years. He's not a bad man but we're not an ideal match - there are times we argue badly and have split up previously.
He wants to stay together for the sake of the children. However, we have no real sex life, his behaviour towards me suggests he finds me boring and annoying and I was a very happy single parent. I feel that after so many on/off years in our relationship, if we're not in love now then what's the point in keep trying?!
However I feel like the villain if I leave. He has a big four bedroom house in a leafy suburb whereas I have a small two bed flat in a busy area. The children would have to share a room. There would be little space. Plus he would demand that they stay with him at weekends, fair enough but they would love his big house and garden and maybe hate me for not providing that and preventing them from having a better lifestyle.
I feel if the relationship is rubbish then it's unlikely to improve - I may be wrong but I haven't heard of couples suddenly rediscovering love after years of incompatibility? I understand that having two young children puts pressure on a relationship but I found him selfish already, for example whilst pregnant I had terrible morning sickness but he made little effort to help me. Most evenings now I say I'm tired and go to bed early and read a book as spending time with him is not good.
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Is it ever worth staying in a relationship for children?
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AllTheTreesAreTall · 06/01/2016 08:40
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