Need a grip (and a hug)

[Lovelilies2]

Backstory- Ex p has been emotionally/ verbally/ threatening abusive in the past. As recently as a disastrous trip to Australia in October/ November for his brother's wedding when he screamed shouted and swore at me and my DD (10)
Have posted in the past.

I'm currently 15 weeks pregnant with dc3 (no. 2 with him- DS is nearly 2)

I have told him it's over, I can't handle any more. He's moved out into one of his flats. I'm buying a small house for me and dcs near my mum. Obviously this is taking a few weeks because of Xmas etc.

He rang me this morning to say he had a dream I lost the baby, wanting reassurance and compassion because he had a bad dream. Then said i want you out of the house ASAP, I want my son 3 and a half days a week or I'll take you to court! I have never said he can't see him. He's always seeing him here because he says the flat is too cold there is heating.
He conveniently forgets that we are in this situation because of all the shit he has put me and the kids through. I am doing my best to get things sorted and move ASAP.
These threats of court etc are upsetting and intimidating
I have said to him to organise mediation and we'll sort out contact properly if he's not happy with what I've offered (2 full days and 2 sleep overs). He says he'll go for 'full custody'.

I hate this. Need an un mumsnetty hug.

[Lovelilies2]

Mortgage is in joint names at the moment but he is supposedly buying me out and getting me off the mortgage. I hope he is anyway because otherwise my mortgage application will fall through.

He is supposed to have DS while I work on New Years Day, but my mum has stepped in. I'm scared to tell him he can't have DS.

He's just sent me a what's app message (didn't even know he had what's app) with a link about easing varicose veins symptoms.
I've ignored it.

[YetAnotherHelenMumsnet]

Hi there,
We've removed DS's name now for you. Take care.