Hi there, new to the forum as I'm really struggling with my current situation.
So 2 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years. It was such a tough decision, however, there were some underlying problems that I wasn't dealing with very well. I won't go into too much detail because I want to be dignified but we had big callings out when we were socialising with friends and drink was involved. I almost always had to pick up the pieces and inevitably say sorry. Not saying it was all her fault but my friends and family could see it was having an effect on me.
We got back from a dream holiday in America, however there was a drunken incident which ended up with her in hospital. This for me was not only very scary but the beginning of the end. I felt distant from her for the final few days of the holiday. I couldn't get my thoughts together. I loved the girl with all my heart but I wasn't sure I could keep taking this hurt. I didn't speak to anyone and even though mine and hers family were very supportive towards me I decided I needed space. I said to her I needed to clear my head and be alone for a bit, I wished her well in whatever she wanted to achieve in life. I didn't want to hold her back. In my heart I was devastated I couldn't help her but in my mind I knew I had to think of myself also.
2 weeks past and I was beginning to get my feelings in check. I missed her so much, I hadn't spoken to her nor put anything on social media as to rub it in her face I was single. I then heard some details from a friend that she had slept around.. It hit me like a train. I got in contact with her over that weekend and I broke down for the first time in my life. She invited me round to talk things out and she told me all the details about who she had slept with and that she was seeing someone. This is now the new relationship. My heart was shattered into a million pieces. I had in mind to patch things up with her before hearing all the details but I was devastated.
2 months had past now and I'm living in regret and thinking what might have been. If only I had talked to people or got counselling to understand what she was going through. We've had on off contact and met up once. She's now blocked me from everything. I think it's so she doesn't keep looking back and bringing up memories of us.
Sorry for the long post but any help would be so grateful.
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Tpc90 · 07/12/2015 20:16
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