Just wondered if anyone had any advice on trying to woo a man with mild Aspergers?
Bit of background - met him a few months ago at a drinks function. He was quite relaxed, we talked a lot and then the next day he began texting and we had a long text conversation lasting the whole day. During the day when he wasn't drinking (sober) he could barely look me in the eye and was very quiet. He just asked the occasional question, but he mainly liked to listen. This went on a while. Sometimes he would even ignore my texts and I would have to text him a couple of times to get a response.
Under normal circumstances i'd take that as a sign of lack of interest, but at the time I wasn't too keen on him so didn't feel 'desperate' if I messaged him constantly as that is what I would do to a friend if they were ignoring me.
Fast forward 3 months and we attended another drinks function and he was back to being more relaxed. He was making loads of eye contact and told me that he wants to be with me. Lot's of hugging and kissing, but no sex. I wasn't ready for a relationship then so politely refused.
The following week he went back to no eye contact and began to quickly distance himself from me. Ultimately, he began to ignore my messages, even after I said i'd like to try a relationship with him.
Fast forward 8 months and I have coincidently ran into him. Sent him a message to say hello, nice to see you etc. Had a brief text conversation and I asked if he would like to go for a drink, and he accepted. Now I am trying to arrange a day, and he has gone back to ignoring me!
I don't want to overstep the line, but I am not sure how to proceed as he has mild Aspergers and I don't know if this is making him behave this way or if he is simply not interested...or maybe he has a new partner.
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Trying to court someone with mild Aspergers
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pipedown · 19/11/2015 20:49
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