I have posted about the situation with my parents before. The back story may or may not be relevant, but it is too much to go into here, though I will if I need to.
Over the summer things deteriorated badly when I basically stood up to them and changed some arrangements concerning the DCs, which culminated in a ceasing of all contact in August. This was my mums choice at the time, but I was prepared for it and I decided to step away and let the situation calm a bit, and also, not back down, which is what I have always done in the past.
So Sept and Oct passed, and we were having a Halloween party. I invited my parents and some other members of the family. The other members came, but my parents didn't acknowledge any of my contact attempts. They wouldn't answer the phone and didn't reply to several texts. The party came and went and they didn't come.
I should add at this point that the DCs (DD1 in particular) are missing them terribly.
So DD2's birthday is this weekend, and today a card has dropped through the door. I haven't opened it but I know its my mums writing.
I am incensed tbh. I grew up with this shit, literally. Cards and presents dropping through from relatives and grandparents that I longed to see but couldn't. I really don't want my DCs going through the same. DD2 is too young to know (3) but DD1 absolutely will care if the same happens at her birthday, and tbh it will do more harm than good.
Not only that, but how dare she? How fucking dare she? She can't have it both ways. SHE chose to stop contact, she chose to not come to the party, she is the one doing this, and then she sends a fucking card like it is ME keeping her away. She HATED it every time it happened when I was a child, and my feelings were never even NOTICED because all we heard about was how angry and hurt it made her. So why is she doing the same to me and my DCs now?
So WWYD? Respond? Ignore? Give the card to DD2 and have DD1 ask why they are sending cards but didn't come to the party? Don't give DD2 the card? I just don't know.
Do I reach out again and invite them round for dinner?
I am stumped. I just haven't a clue where to go from here.
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sliceofsoup · 12/11/2015 12:16
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