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Online Dating is really depressing

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Freakingthefeckout · 30/07/2015 18:42

I'm not hideous, I'm relatively normal and at the moment due to my job I don't get much of a chance to meet new people, so I tried match and POF. It's just been a cavalcade of people I could not see myself with and anyone I could see myself with weren't interested.

So now I feel a bit unlovable, which is a bit of a step backwards really. How do people do this without coming out of it with their self esteem in tatters?

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Interdasty · 31/07/2015 13:36

Well, it depends what you expect from the men. You said ''a cavalcade of people I could not see myself with''. What was wrong with them? Too old? Too bald? Too fat? Not ''solvent''? You also have to be realistic about what you have to offer. The men who look, talk and earn like George Clooney are few and far between and they have millions of women to choose from.

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Freakingthefeckout · 31/07/2015 13:37

Guys, literally less than three hours after I posted this I got a message on POF from a guy that seems promising. We have a lot in common, he has a beard (which I really, really like on a man) and he's just about as hipster-nerdish as I am. It almost seems too good to be true.

Did ye light a candle for me or something?

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LitreOfTea · 31/07/2015 17:38

I did, I prayed to St Anthony for your missing soul mate
now do the same for me!

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LitreOfTea · 31/07/2015 17:41

Interdasty, that sounds a bit unfair to women who are dating! I can't speak for everybody but I'd expect a man to be good company, decent, clean and solvent. The last guy I went out with, he ticked the first three boxes but he was a penniless student in his late 30s, and wanted to move in with me! The man before that, he was a really decent guy, clean, attractive, solvent, but very quiet, not talkative at all. So I have four quite basic requirements and it's still hard! Looking for a man who looks like George Clooney? You have to be kidding!?

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thatsn0tmyname · 31/07/2015 17:44

I was on and off the Match merry go round for two years. After 40 men, 100 dates and 2 short flings I revisited number 4 and we now have two children and enjoy minibreaks to IKEA. Stick with it if you have a thick skin.

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quirkycutekitch · 31/07/2015 17:55

I met a man on match Easter time (1st date I had with someone) I now have a drawer in his flat - it's all good

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bambooyoohoo · 31/07/2015 18:17

Ahh, you have a similar type to me... In my experience beardy geeky hipster-types are hard to come by on POF... Good luck, sounds promising!