Hello all, I am a married mum of three young children. My husband works very hard and most of the time we happily float along with no real issues! But there is one sticking point which rears its ugly head every time friends or family visit... My husband basically decides it's absolutely his right of passage whilst they are here, to go out drinking whenever he pleases! Last weekend when my brother was visiting they walked to the shop to buy a few beers and didn't return. Saturday night he went over to watch the football at a friends house until 2am but apparently that didn't count either as he wasn't in a pub. This inconsideration makes me feel so alone.
So now it's summer hols we've had a few guests visiting us and more planned! and my husband has been out three weekends in a row already. Always with the same point that as he stays in most of the time he deserves to do as he pleases on these various weeks. I think I could be more on board with this theory if he didn't say things like "well what is there to stay home for? Just us bored watching tv like every other weekend!" ????
I am a stay at home mum, I do work very hard to be a good wife, I cook, clean and care for our children. I dont go out very much and if I do (twice a year?) I would almost always choose to share the time out with my husband!
So here I am, unable to sleep, wondering if I'm being unreasonable asking for him to at least pretend to empthyse with my situation, facing yet another weekend alone!...
I can't stress enough how these few weeks every couple of months almost break us every time! I am not allowed to object and if I do I am being completely unreasonable and trying to cause friction to spoil his night. Should I just grin and bare it? Am I unreasonable??
Thank you for reading xx
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Summershiny365 · 28/07/2015 00:00
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