Ask your partner to say 5 nice things about you

[Belaforreal]

But nothing to do with physical beauty.

I just asked my bf this. I'll give you his answers after just want to gage some other responses first.

[Failmum]

Kind, funny, caring, thoughtful and make me glad to be with you. You are the sun that shines in my and DS world.

DS (11) your just the best Mum ever dos you're you.


They're away for a week without me - miss em now

[OvertiredandConfused]

Kind
Practical
Calm
Organised
Clever

[antimatter]

Here's something about me:

1. You're generous and you think about what's important to others.
   
2. You're energetic and able to overcome obstacles.
   
3. You're not fazed or disheartened by inconvenient things in life.
   
4. You're capable of seeing the big picture in terms of other's welfare.
   
5. You're very good at making the effort in social interactions and with new people.

[sensiblesometimes]

Ok ok I gave in and asked
I make good pizza ????
I'm attractive????
I'm good in company ????
DC1 said I'm good at comforting ????
I'm overwhelmed ...

[Offred]

I think asking this question is a little unwise if you're in a good relationship. I wouldn't like being reduced to a bullet point list of good points and neither would BF really. Plus a lot of these are about what services you are providing that make their lives easier, which I think is inevitable really with this kind of question, but I think hearing some of those answers would make me feel reduced.

[pinksomething]

I agree with other posters that it's good to hear about nice men and happy relationships in this topic or you have no other benchmark for what is good.

[pinksomething]

When I was still with DH I asked him what he loved about me (because although he said I love you often, I didn't really believe him!) and he said something like
Good with the kids
Good cook
Keep the house nice.

All the skills of a reasonable nanny/housekeeper. That was all he could muster!

[blackrabbitwhiterabbit]

My dh said:

1. You are fun and spontaneous.
   
2. You can be naive & innocent.
   
3. You are very forgiving.
   
4. Deep down you have a very strong character.
   
5. You fight for the things you believe in.
   

Then he added:

1. You are very naughty (!!!)
   

7.You are very trusting.

[Heartofgoldheadofcabbage]

Beautiful smile
Beautiful eyes
Generous
Smell nice
Great baker
...then he ruined it with "honest sometimes"!

[proudmummywife]

Your a brilliant mum, brilliant wife, good looking, funny and great cook! Awh

[MarkRuffaloCrumble]

Katy "not dog shit thick" what a charmer!

[MarkRuffaloCrumble]

Yeah Calleigh, he's a bit better these days, but part of the reason I split up with his dad was the negative effect he had on all of us, but especially on DS1. We had both got into very negative patterns with him.

DS1 is a tricky character (we've long suspected slight ASD) but as he grows up (he's now 15) he's starting to emerge as a funny and thoughtful young man and our relationship is a lot better.

[sensiblesometimes]

And the point of this is ...?

[AnnieOnAMapleLeaf]

"Fucking mumsnet! Put the damn phone down!"

[Offred]

I'm organised, punctual, and I always have a pen.

Not really, but I'd like someone to one day notice and compliment me on these.

YES!!!

[katy1039]

I'm supportive, calm in an emergency, not dog shit thick, make him laugh and make him feel better about himself. Bless.

[mummyrunnerbean]

DP says, via text: 'Kind, funny, know me SO well, an amazing mother and you make me smile every day!'

It amazed me how quick he was!

[CalleighDoodle]

Ds1 needs some mother-son quality time crumble

[MarkRuffaloCrumble]

My DP later apologised for the things he didn't include and asked if the ones he said were OK! I reassured him that it wasn't a test and there are no wrong answers, I guess it is used in counselling to see if you can find any positives about each other when you're busy focussing on the problems.

As our relationship is very strong then I suppose it is easy to come up with a long list of good things, but I know that in my previous marriage this wouldn't have yielded a good list!

In fact, I remember in a quest to boost my own confidence I thought I would make bracelets using some letter beads to wear and remind myself that I'm a good person. I asked XH and the DCs to say one nice thing about me. I got:

DD (aged 5) Very cuddly
DS (aged 7) Good cook
DS (aged 12) I don't know what the verb is for favouritism but you show favouritism to the other 2
XH (old enough to know better!) You're always there.

He always took me for granted (and still does regarding childcare!) so it summed it up for me really. The nicest thing he could say about me was that I exist to make everyone else's life easier!

[happyh0tel]

kind to other people
adventurous
share laughter
enjoys the good times & we share the bad times - enjoys life !
has a lot of desirable "things on my wish list"

[ashtrayheart]

After a debate about why I need mumsnet to ask this question
I have:
The best eyes he has ever seen
Lovely smile
He loves the way I am with the kids
He loves the way I get obsessive/into things (when I'm applying for a job or writing an essay for my ou stuff I live and breathe it)
He admires the way I get on with things despite the stress I am under (2 teens with sn)

It's started a nice open conversation between us that we haven't had in a while so thanks op

[MadAngryGnome]

Apparently I'm strong, caring, goofy, smart and a really good mother

And he doesn't mind that I've just dropped jammy toast on the duvet, so that's a bonus too.

[RedXan]

Oops, somehow pasted twice xD sorry for the mess!

[RedXan]

I messaged my DP to ask, expecting a little while before a response. To my surprise he replied within a a few minutes!

'Of course I can :)

1. You are thoughtful for those you love. And do nice things for them. Like when you get me monsters and snacks xD
   
2. YouOf course I can :)
   
3. You are thoughtful for those you love. And do nice things for them. Like when you get me drinks and snacks xD
   
4. You always care about me and about how I feel
   
5. You are an amazing mum who shows so much love for your children
   
6. You make me laugh, which is so important :)
   
7. You are extremely intelligent and have interests in many different things. always care about me and about how I feel
   
8. You are an amazing mum who shows so much love for your children
   
9. You make me laugh, which is so important :)
   
10. You are extremely intelligent and have interests in many different things.'
    

I replied saying how lovely he was to say such nice things and he said;

'It's true. I really do appreciate you as a person and as my SO :) '

Feeling all warm inside now

[LookAtMeGo]

Before he sent the list he said: "There are many so these are not in order of favourite". Awwww!