Catholic/Christian Evangelical Relationship difficulty or just differences-advice please?

[Jack1954]

Hi,
This is my first time on here. As a man, I would welcome some sound advice from the woman's point of view. Its Saturday night. My partner P has just stormed out on me because I didn't want to go out with her to a church service, which she just informed me was very special to her. She said we dont get many Saturday nights together (which is true because I work night shifts), and she also said that I have turned my back on God as well. I said don't you think that's being over dramatic?
She left the house. As well as being a strong believer, she is a street pastor on Saturday nights once a month, so he went out to do her ministry helping the homeless etc.
I myself am a bit more introverted than she is, and I am not keen on going to church events on a Saturday night. I said I didn't feel like going and that it wasn't my thing-it was some kind of church social he had been looking forward to ("it was on my heart" she said-I didn't know...she ws trying to pressure me into going with her-I know she doesn't like going alone to these things-but then we do come from different church backgrounds...I do go along to her church occasionall-but not recently as it is not my thing-she is Evangelical Christian, and I am Catholic.
P and I have been living together for only 9 months, we are supposed to be a mature couple...I know you are going to say talk to her... I am sorry I have disappointed her, hopefully she will get over it...I don't think it is true that I have turned away from God though...I'm just not too keen on Evangelical Christian versions. How should I apologise? Any thoughts welcome. Thanks.

[MerryMarigold]

Your partner needs to learn respect for those who believe in ways that are different from hers

I think the difficulty here is that you both think the other one is a Christian, and have an idea of what that means - but you both see it as different things. I think if she was a less 'active' Christian and had chosen to be with a Muslim or atheist, it would be a lot clearer.

I really think you need to both sit down and decide what your convictions are ie. the things you are not willing to budge on and really want the other person to believe. Think and pray about those first. Do you both believe you are on the same path as each other, or is she trying to convert you? Are you kind of hoping she will strengthen your faith or are you quite happy with where you are in your relationship with God? If your convictions don't match up with each others convictions, and you are not willing to accept the other's convictions (sometimes they ARE mutually exclusive) you can't stay together.

However, I also agree with PP who said The 'turning away from God' comment is absurd in many levels. Essentially what she really means is that she feels like you've turned away from her. I don't think this particular issue is actually a religious one, if it is the first time it has popped up. I think she was hurt and turned it into a religious issue.

[Jack1954]

I think I will ask her if she feels that her version of Christianity is superior...but maybe let things cool down a bit first.

[sportify]

Jack, I was brought up in an evangelical home. I don't actually go to church now. (just quietly believe!)
Unless you had said you'd be going together or promised her you'd attend. You have nothing to apologise for.
I got sick and tired of all the charisma, hypocrisy and 'holier than thou' attitude and just left altogether.
If she is starting to use the church to be controlling over you. I would say that is a bad sign.
All sorts of people use the name of God to do all sorts of things. (I've been hauled through many myself)
Actually I posted this on Facebook just tonight: 'just because someone has charisma, does not automatically mean that they are trustworthy. Charisma is a façade, behind which many a narcissist hides'.