Long story hopefully short.
Been with dh for 6 years married for 1, we have 2 young dc.
He walked out yesterday and hasn't come back and isn't answering phonecalls or messages. We have been arguing recently as a certain situation late last year ended in me losing quite a bit of respect for fil.
I am always civil, friendly, chatty when with dps family but often need to vent about comments made towards me when we leave. Maybe I shouldn't vent to dp but I have done and he has said he has had enough and that I need to except his family (which I do) and left leaving me with dc's and not knowing where he is
I feel they're are other underlying issues and he has used this fall out as an excuse to leave. Dh's tolerance of dc's has gone down considerably, when it is just me and dh together he seems fine and relaxed but as soon as the dc's are around he seems on edge and gets quite snappy (at the dc's, not me).
When he is being overly snappy with the dc's I do pick him up on it which usually results in an arguement which as I have started it, although I feel it is necessary, I end up being the bad guy, the unreasonable, moody one.
I fully accept that my husband is not completely to blame for all the arguments and that we both make comments etc sometimes that winds the other one up, but we both have our good points, just at the moment dh's good side seems to be getting clouded by how he treats the dcs.
Now I have typed this out I'm not really sure what I am asking. I suppose some advice on how I should approach dh with my concerns without making him feel victimised in a way. He honestly doesn't take critism well at all and will jump quite badly on the defensive at any sign of me pointing out that his behaviour/attitude is affecting me or the dc.
Not sure how much info to put without outing myself but I will try and answer and questions as best I can and I am ready to accept any points of view. I just need to save my marriage, my husband is my best friend, I really want to make this work.
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IComeUndone · 19/04/2015 07:59
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