I posted a while back this same topic. I had become increasingly obsessed with this and could not settle. I managed to move past it (for a while) until yesterday my new midwife told me my dating scan coil be up to a week or so out. Now in devastated as I'd been told before that done at the right time they are never more than a couple of days in or out. Basically my last period was on or around the 20th August. I slept with my partner a few times between the 25th August until we reconciled properly in September. However after a drunken night in the 7th of September, I slept with a good friend of mine. On the 15th of September I don't a pg test and it was positive @ 2/3 weeks. My first scan put my due date @ 26 May 2015. Meaning I conceived on or around beginning of September (and I was sleeping with my partner at this time). But now after new mid wife saying it could be a week out I'm back to square one and I'm ill over it. Anyone any advice/experience please? Can a clear blue say 2/3 weeks only 8 days after intercourse? Does this seem more than likely paranoia and baby is my partners? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Please no judgment. I hate myself enough as it is and this pregnancy is awful.
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Halleberry · 28/01/2015 12:18
I'm so pleased and relieved for you, Halle - you must on cloud 9.
Great outcome Halle, I've been reading your thread & so happy to read your update.
A lady I used to work with had a saying,
"There's only been 1 perfect person in this world...& look what they did to Him!"
I now say this myself when I'm berating myself for another one of my failings!
You've punished yourself enough. Now forgive yourself & love yourself for creating this lovely family.
Thanks for all the kind words and support. It was a huge burden. I'm not sure what I'd have recommended to someone else as an outsider but I'm so glad I didn't risk my family on my tiny 5% doubt that she was his baby. Infact now the fog has lifted, I could probably be as confident to say that somewhere inside my heart I knew this baby was his, but guilt and sheer paranoia made me question it time and time again. There were days that were "easier" than others, but not once in my whole pregnancy did I have one day of peace. Not one day went by when a wash of guilt and deep guilt would come over me. Sometimes I went days without eating or sleeping with worry over it. thank good I have a healthy baby inspite of how malnourished I must have been at times 
... I will never forget all the support on the bad days that you lovely ladies have me. And the fact that the majority of you never judged me just amazes me. Thankyou eternally xx
I've read this whole thread in one go.
I'm so pleased for you, you were between a rock and a hard place and you made a decision. That decision was such a huge weight on your shoulders I could practically feel it.
I hope you are now at peace and can enjoy you're family
I think also now that you have peace of mind and are forgiving yourself, it will make it a great deal easier for you to relax with your little one and partner. So glad this is the outcome.
It's far to personal and rare to put on here 
if someone I knew were reading this (chances are slim but you never know as pp has pointed out) but if they were and they had their suspicions and I disclosed what has made me sure, well then the cats out the bag so to speak. But I can assure you after having her at the hospital for tests because she has terrible reflux, something was confirmed that would make it impossible for her to be anyone's but my DP. It's been confirmed 100% and I never even had to ASK for this information. It was told to us on the off chance because of all the tests she had. But what a saving grace her hirribke reflux has turned out to be. I'd take all her pain away for her if I could (she has the most severe reflux the doctors have witnessed) but for that split second I was relieved we took her to hospital after days of her crying in pain, to hear those sweet words from the doctor about something else they discovered. I can't believe I got my happy ending 
xx
Oh I am SO happy for you op!
I only found your thread today and could feel your anxiety through your posts.
I am so pleased for you and your family. 
OP I've lurked on your thread a couple of times and remember you. Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl and I'm so pleased to see your update.
Put this behind you now.
You made a nasty mistake and did an awful thing... and, because of the circumstances, you've paid for it in spades.
You've had months of anguish. You've paid your dues. Learn and move on now.
Don't think of yourself as a bad person, a bad partner. I think everyone on this thread who can see how much you've suffered can see the extent of your guilt, shame, and your feelings for your DF.
An unethical, amoral person would have buried it immediately and been happy to say, I'm not going to tell him - better sleeping dogs lie.
Your conscience wouldn't let you do that, ever, not for a moment. You are not a bad person - quite the opposite.
Good luck with your baby- you deserve to be happy and I'm sure you all will be
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