I've been ill this week with a rather cracking migraine, and then an ear infection joined it for good measure. So I've been off work, which is a fairly drastic measure for me. I hate been ill, it reminds me how single I am. It's just reminded me how I'm not even factored in on others lists of priorities.
I've had a couple of messages off friends, which I appreciate, I really do. But it just reminds that when a friend is ill, or a sibling, I always ask if they need anything from shops, or want me to pop round, look after the kids for a few hours or run them to doctors appointments. But they don't need me to, they all have partners to do that for them.
A friend messaged last night to ask if I was OK, and then used the opportunity to cancel a night out in a couple of weeks, that we've had planned for a while. This is a close friend, who I work with, but we don't often work the same shifts, so we don't do much. She's cancelled on our night out, and is going away for the night with her partner instead. I do know that's not unreasonable at all, but why aren't I on peoples lists as a priority at all? I'm a good person, a good friend, but I just feel like I don't matter.
Should I really expect that because I'm single, I'm not important to anybody? This made me cry last night, and again this morning- I'm feeling poorly, and very let down. But how do I manage my expectations of what to expect from friends and family?
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Realised yet again how far down the list I am
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BreakOutTheKaraoke · 17/11/2014 08:55
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