I've been with my DP for a year and living together for 4 months. Its been a pretty intense relationship, depths of feelings on both sides are way above anything we've ever felt before (both had 10+year long marriages previously) and we admit that sometime we don't handle the feelings very well and both of us get jealous, anxious and insecure. Neither of us had these issues in previous relationships, for me I guess I didnt' really care enough to be insecure....
Anyway, we've had a tough couple of weeks and my DP has been very distant. He's been getting a lot of hassle from his ex wife and issues with the kids (they don't like that i exist, convinced I'm stopping them getting back together). I tried and tried to reconnect with him, get him to talk and on Monday i had a pique of 'well if he doesn't value me, someone will' and signup to a dating website. I put up the profile and then thought nothing of it. Messages came in but i ignored them. Of course my DP found the profile as he was using my ipad (I'm not very good at lying so hadn't deleted anything....). He's gutted. Can't understand how i would be looking for someone else - i wasn't, just looking for some attention (pathetic i know). He's very very angry, very very hurt and just confused as to why i would do that. I think he's going to leave but at the moment I'm fighting tooth and nail to try and fix it. he feels like I've thrown everything back in his face. is jealous that other men would even have seen my profile and thought about me being available for dating. I'm taking his anger, apologising a lot and trying to explain. I guess I'm posting to ask what else i can do? I know I've made a huge mistake but this man is worth it and I'll do anything i can to fix this.
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How can i fix my mistake - hurt my DP
Tankisempty · 14/11/2014 08:45
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