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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Relationships

Love life back on track :)........(long)

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Ulysees · 10/09/2006 19:09

I had a thread running a while ago and have often mentioned on other threads, the problems dh and I have in our marriage. Tbh there's just one BIG problem...lack of sex.

I'd decided that after a very long time together I was going to leave him. I didn't really love him like I should, we were like brother and sister and I didn't fancy him...or so I thought! I had to wait until dh was over the latest hurdle in a long running stressful situation before telling him I wanted out.
So, this is going to sound daft to non believers, but I went to see a tarot reader who's also a medium into numerology etc.. she has a very good reputation. I went on a whim as she works in a town centre cafe and I had some time to spare. Luckily she coulc fit me in. I was really wanting some career advice as I have a career in mind and have started the ball rolling,just wondered if she could give advice on it? Also was curious about any future love life
Well, to say I was blown away is an understatement She was so accurate. She told me my personality and dh's personality. Knew the cause of his reluctance to make love. Knew the stress he was going through. She knew minute details that unless she'd been a constant fly on my wall there's no way she could've known. She knew things about my family etc...

To cut a long story short she told me something I already knew, that dh is my soulmate. Not only that but our marriage is also a partnership and we have lots in common. I knew all this but didn't think I could carry on as felt so neglected. She said I may get a surprise if I told him how I feel. Don't get me wrong he knows I want a sex life, who doesn't? but he didn't really know how close I was to go. I've sort of been protecting him. Well, I told him. And he even admitted that his parents attitude to sex could've affected him. My parents were the opposite and I love sex so we've always been mismatched this way. It was good in the beginning but soon dwindled.

So, now my next door neighbour has her house up for sale as she can't stand the noise any longer Just joking. But really, our love life is amazing. We're even sending each other dirty texts and dh is a lot happier as of course am I

I really can't believe it but am thankful we've sorted this big problem out I just hope others with this problem can find a solution too.

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Ulysees · 20/09/2006 20:27

If you're worried about ringing why not text her? She's really lovely though.

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Ulysees · 20/09/2006 20:27

N you need to make an appointment with her as she can get busy. You could probably ring the day before if it's midweek but I know saturdays get very busy. You can go to the cafe anytime though

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lilymolly · 20/09/2006 20:22

Can you just turn up at this cafe?

Ulysees · 20/09/2006 20:18

I didn't read what you put? Don't worry,we all get some stick on here at some point.

I have the cafe phone no. If you want that email me. She's in there Tues, thurs and saturday.

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lilymolly · 20/09/2006 20:16

Hi!
still plucking up courage to ring this lady.
Glad to hear things are still ok. all kicking off on other thread!! I should learn to keep my big mouth shut i think. too opiniated thats my problem , but I am nice really

Ulysees · 20/09/2006 20:06

Hi lilymolly. No dh wasn't with me today, he was at work.

Tonight he's out watching his footie team. I said I'd be waiting for him in the candlelit summerhouse, wearing my black lingerie It does have a heater though

Another mate is going to the tarot lady tomorrow so I'm excited to hear how she gets on.

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lilymolly · 18/09/2006 13:03

E mail down again!! butI am sure I will receive it soon. Thank you

Ulysees · 16/09/2006 13:35

well it went to someone

Have sent you another hun.

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lilymolly · 15/09/2006 17:32

OOPS gave wrong e mail!!
[email protected] is the correct one!!

Ulysees · 15/09/2006 17:14

hi, emailed you lilymolly

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lilymolly · 15/09/2006 10:29

def updated profile to accept e mails- but you can e mail [email protected]

Ulysees · 14/09/2006 12:20

still saying you don't accept emails?

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Ulysees · 14/09/2006 12:18

ok lilymolly will do

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lilymolly · 14/09/2006 12:14

Ulysees-Hi have unblocked e mails now so you can CAT me i think and I will not have to pay, but e mail is down for few days!! so may be a while before I respond.

frumpygrumpy · 14/09/2006 11:24

What a great post! How fantastic! Pleased for you both.

Kessernags · 14/09/2006 11:19

I have always loved a happy ending. Good for you!!

Ulysees · 14/09/2006 10:00

Ok lily, but you do have to pay a small charge. I tried to CAT you but mn said you don't recieve emails? Maybe if you accept them I can CAT you and you won't need to pay? Would be nice to meet another mner. I only know sallystrawberry but knew her before mumsnet.

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Ulysees · 14/09/2006 09:58

No viki, she told me I may be surprised at his reaction. I thought it was all cut and dried. I had to stall telling him as we're going through something major to do with dh's old workplace. So, she said to tell him now rather than wait and I'm glad I did

Let's just say we celebrated 13 years marriage this morning with more than a cake

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/09/2006 20:20

you needed a tarot reader to tell you you werent communicating....?

Anyhooo - I am very pleased for you - fantastic.

lilymolly · 13/09/2006 20:15

Have not registered to CAT yet!!
will do so tomorrow

Ulysees · 13/09/2006 18:34

CAT me lilymolly. We could even meet for a cuppa as there's a cafe upstairs. Does mexican food plus other stuff

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lilymolly · 13/09/2006 18:33

Ooh I live in Durham- Would love to see her if you could pass on her info to me??

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Ulysees · 13/09/2006 14:26

hope so too lilymolly. The relate book is good, Guide to sex in loving relationships. It has things you can do together and thought provoking exercises. May get dh/dp to open up?

cantstopmyseld she's in Darlington which is in the North East of England.

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lilymolly · 12/09/2006 22:02

asfrom someone who has had similar problem posted on other threads. I am delighted for you, only hope there is light at the end of the tunnel for me.

cantstopmyseld · 12/09/2006 21:18

where and who was tarrot reader, would love a go

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