My daughter started seeing someone in August. She is nearly 16 and he has just turned 17. Over this time there has been incidents that have happened to him that are never his fault, she believes his version of events 100% and can never be told any another version may even be possible.
Examples are:
Being thrown out of his mothers house to be made homeless amd having to sleep on the streets with no reason other than his mother is horrible and hit him.
Tried to live with his grandmother but could only stay there if he paid her £50 per week despite having no job and only be 16 at the time.
I tried to tell my daughter there is always two sides to the story, but kept an open mind at this time because there can be situtions like this.
He then sofa surfed but kept getting thrown out for reasons that were never his fault, again the poeple could of just got fed up.
By this time I was not overly impressed by her choice of boyfriend but he was having a bit of a bad time, he was sleeping on the streets again, he kept asking her to ask me to sleep at our house, this was in November time. I have said no he is not under any circumstances staying, and never will.
He was very obsessive about her, standing outside the house, not letting her see other friends, she said she would rather be with him and never see her friends again.
Social services were involved with after this and he got a place in complex but was then evicted soon after for not adhered to the rules and having someone in to stay over night, again he told my daughter this was not his fault, it was the staff picking on him and got him threw out. my daughter beieved that.
He then was back to sleeping on the streets, he then became depressed about the situation and took an overdose of paracetamol, my daughter and other people called the paramedics and he was admitted to hospital, whilst on the childrens ward at local hospital various other incidents happened and he was transferred to a mental facility where he was to remain. This was a couple of weeks ago.
My daughter started to see her friends again, having fun, although she would have to pretend she wasnt going to go out.
Then last week he dumped her, said he had a new girlfriend in the place he was, met her there, my daughter spoke to his friend who confirmed this.
Then today apparently she is back with him as he rang her, he wasnt with anyone, he told her has wasnt and she believes him.
Well after that epic post I have attempted to tell my daughter that he is probably lying about that and multiple other things I havn't even included in this, there is so many other things.
She didn't react well, he can do no wrong, every version of anything he says is the truth.
Even when in the hospital and I was there and they said why he was evicted from the complex, "they" were lying, - he had a girl stay over night when thats not allowed, I was told this by CAMHS in front of her and him, but he then later still convinced her.
So if anyone has got through this mamoth post, I thank you, it was more for me getting it all out, cos she wont listen to me, and shes getting back with him.
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Help with teenage daughter and problems with her on/off boyfriend
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catloony · 22/03/2014 00:37
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