Hi everyone, I'm new to this forum! just need a little advice on something my boyfriend said yesterday which really irritated me and would like to see other women's take on it.
Ok so I have been in a relationship with this man now for 2 and a half years, he is kind and loyal etc he does have a tendency to comment on other women, however this was more at the start of the relationship.
Yesterday we were talking and I asked him if he knew anyone who had ever done a specific course at college, he said yes and that she once really liked him (this was before we met) and asked him round for sex but he didn't go however he was really tempted because she had an amazing body. This was all put rather blunt and he knew he had went too far as soon as he said it and started rambling but then dug himself a bigger hole.
I am not annoyed at the fact he fancied her, or she fancied him, or that she wanted him round for sex, I am annoyed that he told me in such a blunt fashion. It just seemed so disrespectful to me, it would never cross my mind to say something as blunt as that to my partner to be considerate of their feelings. We often say 'gosh he's hot' or 'wow he's nice!' but I don't like 'yeah I really wanted to have sex with her because she has such a good body'. (put in a much more blunt fashion as you can imagine!)
Thing is, whenever I told him it was inappropriate he kept trying to make out I was jealous and threatened which angered me more, his apology was basically 'I'm sorry you took what I said the wrong way' not 'I'm sorry I said it'.
Did I overract? Is this something couples discuss?
Thanks, Barbs.
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