Hello again!
I won't many specifics because I don't know how relevant they are and it'd take an age; but how do you avoid becoming bitter and judgmental to your own detriment after a betrayal? If I wasn't suspicious and paranoid about people's motives before (which I probably was, to some degree) I definitely am now.
In some ways it's been good for me. I've always been someone who has avoided conflict and generally let things eat me up. I am now able to stand up for myself a little better. And I'm definitely better equipped now to identify red flags (although I have no intentions of any romantic relationships in the future whatsoever at the moment).
I think I may have gone too far the other way, though, and essentially become someone for whom no one can be trusted or is good enough. Except a few female family members.
I probably should add- the betrayal was by ex"d"p. I have nothing to do with him now so it's something 'in the past' not something I need help escaping or 'coming to terms with' within the relationship. We split about 8 weeks ago.
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Dirtybadger · 07/02/2014 16:45
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