My Mum does an 'Uh-huh' or a 'Hmm' (an agreeing sort of noise) halfway through every single sentence which comes out of my mouth so she never, ever listens to the end of a single sentence I say.
It drives me absolutely insane. How do I cope?
Throughout my childhood, she never listened to me, and because of this I am extra sensitive to it now as an adult. I don't think I have ever uttered a single sentence to her without being interrupted.
I call her up on it at least 3 or 4 times a day when I am with her (she is currently staying with me for 12 days) but it has no effect.
I call her up on it when it makes her look stupid (i.e. she makes agreeing noises to something which, in the context of the rest of the sentence that I haven't finished yet, makes no sense at all) and when she is agreeing to something that she clearly knows NOTHING about (i.e. basically implying yes, yes I am already an expert on what you are telling me, there is nothing you can say which I didn't already know about).
It really upsets me that when I am trying to explain something to her about which I know she knows nothing, but I actually have something interesting to say, she just makes all these noises which basically mean 'Yes, I know, I already knew that' as if she can't wait for me to finish talking.
I have also called her up on it outside of a normal conversation, i.e. sat her down and said that it really upsets me when she doesn't listen to me. Nothing ever makes a difference.
I know I can't change her, but I need to change my reaction to her. I just feel depressed being around her. It brings back awful feelings of not being listened to as a child.
The irony is, it made me really insecure about speaking out loud as a teen, and she used to nag me about mumbling and sent me off to elocution lessons as a result!
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Mum interrupts EVERY single sentence I ever utter, how do I cope?
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