I think my marriage is ending

[caitsmummy]

Sorry if this ends up to be long winded!

Anyway for the past month it seems me and my husband have been on a rollercoaster!

He has a full time job as an electrician and at weekends he is a youth football coach.

It all started when I was getting abit concerned he had feelings for another woman (who is a mum of one of the kids he coaches)

We became distant before this, no sex not even cuddling, (he tried but I kept pushing him away)

Anyway I told him my concerns over this woman and he said I had nothing to worry about, a couple days later he said he had been thinking about what I said and he couldn't stop thinking about it, he said he does think this woman is attractive and they have alot in common but doesn't know if he had feelings for her. He said he got confused because of what I said to him, if I thought he may have feelings for her he must do, sort of thing! I got rather upset and asked if that was it for us, he said I don't know, which made me more upset....I told him I want you to be happy, if you do have feelings for her tell me and we can sort it out, either seperate or get away for abit and try and work things out together.

Later that night he told me he didn't have feelings for her and he was happy with me, after seeing how upset I got over what cold happen, he realised how much I love him. So we decided to forget about it and move on....I felt alot more closer to him and we where 'together' nearly every night and I couldnt get enough of him! I felt happy but at the same tme still concerend he wern't happy.

I started sort of marking my territory on his FB page by saying how much I love him and posting photos of us together.

I had been watching Big Brother one night this week and got upset and wound up about something which was happening on it...I posted on my FB page that night to say how much I hate homewreckers and if any woman tried it on with my hubby she would rue the day she was born, I got a few comments on it asking if everthing was ok, and I said yea everythings fine, nothings happened with us we're closer than ever.

When my husband saw this it made him angry and said I hadn't moved on and that I need help. I said you keep messing with my feelings, Im happy I was moving on but now you've gone and said that. He said he's confused at how suddenly I started to be more cuddly with him in general and in bed, said its kind of posessive, and he doesn't know what to think anymore.

I was due to have the contriceptive jab today and I asked him do you want me to cancel it or what, he said I don't know...I said to him I dont want to have it if we're going to seperate cause it will mess my body up, he said we're not going to seperate, but he said it so flippantly and like he didn't mean it....he was late to work and had to go, so we left it up in the air and now im going out of my mind as to what is going happen. I have cancelled the injection too.

Im sorry if this all sounds confusing, my head is in a right state at the moment, which I must add, I am also receiving medication for depression too.

I don't know if anyone can help me but I just wanted to get it off my chest...I have no one else to talk too im afraid...

[caitsmummy]

Thank you...he doesn't see this other woman, apart from when he does his coaching (tonight and weekends)

I have told him im over analysing things. xx
thanks for your comment. x

[Jan45]

Us women are far more emotional than men, he's probably just finding it hard to respond to you. I don't know if he has feelings for this OW or not, does he spend time with her?

As for the FB update, sorry but that actually just makes it sound like your marriage is in crisis and you're trying very hard to disguise but failing by posting stuff like that.

All you can do is talk, talk, talk, have romantic nights out and try getting that closeness back again, not having sex doesn't help any relationship and you lose that bond.

It sounds like there's nothing going on so try and calm yourself down, do something to distract you from this, we always over analyse things that probably don't even need analysing in the first place.