I split with my very abusive ex back in August after years of abuse that escalated as far as sexual assault and repeated attempts to rape me before I gave in and just let him do what he wanted to keep him happy while I worked out how to get out.
Four weeks after he left was DD2's birthday and my family came, took over everything, overrode all DD1's plans for her sister's birthday and walked around my house like they owned the place. DD1 got upset about things and was cross and she shouted too much and my dad smacked her, I was shocked but didn't feel I could say anything because no one was listening to me anyway. I got more and more stressed by everything until I left the room for a few minutes only to be followed by my mother to be screamed at for being ungrateful and rude and people were only trying to help. I'd had enough and told everyone to leave but they even ignored me with that because they 'wanted to know I was ok'
A few weeks later I spent an evening getting texts from my brother telling me how I deserved what I got from my ex and from my sister saying I was making it all up for attention.
I didn't tell my parents because they'd already told me I was making them ill with the stress I was putting them under, even though I live 100 miles away and but for three visits to help me move furniture they have done nothing for me that they didn't do before, I have not asked them for money or help with the kids or anything all I have said is that I didn't want to see my brother and sister but they have continued to invite them round whenever I am there even now that they have read the texts.
Today I sent my mum and dad an email saying I didn't want my siblings mentioned in my house or for them to be discussed with my children and that if they mentioned them I would ask them to leave.
I have just had a reply telling me I am an abusive daughter who is threatening to take their grandchildren away for no good reason.
I don't know the point of this post other than I think I've had enough of everything and I don't know what to do to get through.
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freemanbatch · 16/05/2013 23:45
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