My DP, who is an only child, and I have been together for 6 months and I really want the relationship to work. The main potential problem is his mother.
I, like every women he's been with, am only after his inheritance (her semi in a not nice part of Surrey), but he's too stupid to see it. She threatens to kill herself because she's lonely and no one cares. She cried when she found out I'd stayed the night at his home - a neighbour saw me leave. She makes comments about my appearance (ugly), education (poor), family (common) and has started talking about writing him out of her will. He used to be so kind before he met me, but now she's ashamed of his (unspecified) cruelty to her.
She also has keys to his house, which he gave her when he was having work done, and lets herself in when he's at work; he has asked for them back, but the suicide threats start again, which distract him from the task at hand.
DP moved back to his home town when his father, who died two years ago, became very ill. He sees his mother twice a week and calls everyday.
She's an intelligent, capable women in excellent health, who appears to have lots of friends. I hate that this is relevant, so please don't hate me for saying it, but I own my own place and my family are "posher" and richer than hers.
She is very open about the fact that he ruined her life and career when he was born, so he owes her.
Does anyone have any advice on dealing with her? How should I expect him to behave if we're going to have a successful relationship? Is it even possible to have a successful relationship with someone like that in the background?
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Met DP's mother...She's "difficult". How do I play this?
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kistanbul · 08/05/2013 10:02
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