Will try and keep it brief, but am torn about what do do on Xmas day with exP and DD (2.5). Basically, he had affairs from shortly after she was born. The last one I discovered 10 days before last Xmas. Agreed he could stay over Xmas so kids could have a nice time (my DS,8). It was horrible. This year he has offered to cook Xmas dinner at mine. I was reluctant, but he was persistant. So I agreed. He has been suitably vague about his plans for Xmas for weeks and last night I asked on what days he plans to see DD. Pretty much nothing apart from Xmas Day. He will pitch up at 10, cook, eat then go. Wont see her Xmas Eve, Boxing Day, then he's back to work. From what I gather, he will be spending the rest of Xmas (Sat PM onwards, bar few hours Xmas Day) with the last "OW" and her child. I'm not happy with this. He keeps trotting out that DD is the most important thing to him and yet, at a special time of her year, when he has an open door to see her, he clearly has other priorities. So. Do I suck it up and let him spend Xmas in my kitchen, playing "happy families", counting down till he leaves, or do I tell him he is welcome to pop over and see her but lunch is a no. Its important to me that they have a good day, but equally that I can try and relax and enjoy the day with them too.
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