hubby snores

[LylaLils]

My other half snores. Loudly. We haven't been able to sleep in the same room for many years. We had a baby boy 13 weeks ago. The cot is in my room, naturally, but its getting to the point where it would be beneficial to both myself and my son if we slept in separate rooms. There's no way I can sleep next to my hubby, what with him snoring like a walrus giving birth.

Has anyone here tried, or knows anyone who has tried, getting one of those operations to stop the snoring? We went to a consultation once and the woman said the snoring was caused by an enlarged flap in his nose which could be soldered off. It's expensive but I think worth a go. Hubby seems to think it won't work.

Please let me know if anyone has ever tried this method. Or any other suggestions. We've tried nose strips, nasal sprays, I've worn ear plugs. Nothing works.

Nb. Also posted on the sleep forum.

[NamingOfParts]

How about he goes in with your DS? If he thinks the noise is so funny then I am sure your DS will put him right on that score.

Move your DS into your DH's bedroom and let him fanny around with his door slamming/lights on and off/TV on. You retire (to the next county) with ear plugs in and leave them to it.

[TheDoctrineOfSnatch]

Right, so you have always had separate rooms but the size of your house/number of children means that is no longer a solution.

So a new solution is needed whereby you both get some sleep. This doesn't have to be a blame thing - it is not possible for both of you to get sleep without something changing. Alternate nights on the sofa. Look into extending your property. Get him to experiment with quieter methods of going to sleep. You alternate nights at a hotek. You wear the earplugs and he gets up to DS. Or - he gets medical help.

Don't get me wrong - your DH is being an arse. But by staring the problem and putting together a list of solutions, some of which (the hotel!) are outlandish and asking for his solutions, maybe you can depersonalise it somehow?

[Lueji]

Alternate nights on the sofa?

I'd send him to the sofa or out of the house, tbh.

And not come back until the snoring is sorted.

Actually, I'm sure it's domestic violence to force your snoring on your partner and do nothing about it.
Sleep deprivation is a well known form of torture and this man is being a right old bastard.

[GiveMeSomeSpace]

Sorry to say it, but he does sound like a selfish git and it sounds like you've already come to that conclusion.
It's widely accepted that overweight men snore more. Of course thin people can snore as well, but the more overweight one is, the more likely one is to snore. Lack of exercise can also increase snoring. If I start snoring from time to time, I just up my exercise and lose a few pounds.
But I guess this is all detail if he's not even prepared to address the problem.

[Karbea]

Oh I feel your pain! Dh snoring next to me, can't go to the spare room as his parents are staying. Doubt I'll sleep at all tonight.

[LylaLils]

Everyone, I can't thank you enough for your replies and contribution to this thread. Just reading your comments has made me feel better. Some comments have cracked me up, esp the ones slating my other half. Also there has been some pretty useful suggestions. One of which I read tonight and took immediate action on! Thank you NamingOfParts. As I type this I'm feeding my boy while my other half sleeps in the bed in his room (he's in with DS). I'm sleeping in the separate room with the listener. I was worried the listener would pick up his snores but thankfully it didn't and I think this is going to be the working solution for now...until he eventually gets medical help. Thanks all xxx

[vintageviolets]

I feel your pain, Ive slept 12am-1am tonight because of DHs snoring.

Every bloody night is the same x

[BunFagFreddie]

From the other point of view, I am actually the snoring party and I talk in my sleep, make strange noises and thrash about. If I wake in the night I can't get back to sleep without the radio or TV on. I'm a woman too.

Apparently I've sat bolt upright in bed and talked gibberish to him, before lying back down and snoring loudly.

It drives DP mad, ahe jabs me in the ribs and wakes me up at night, so I go downstairs and sleep on the sofa. If I know I'm going to be restless at night, like when I'm about to have my peroid or I've just come on, I sleep downstairs. DP is a very light sleeper and you only have to fart and it wakes him up. In all honesty this pisses me of, because I can't help it and I'm not doing it on purpose. Sometimes I wonder why I should have to be the one to sleep downstairs. Apprently DP can't, because he's such a light sleeper. I end up having a shit nights sleep and then usually get up at 4:30am, because I'm not comfortable.

I can see it from both side, but your DP should sleep on the sofa at least half of the time. Tbh, I wouldn't have surgery for my snoring if DP asked, I'd tell him that he can fuck right off and I'll sleep on the sofa.

[NamingOfParts]

I'm glad you have found a stop gap solution which works for you. It is quite possible that your DH will act a lot quieter generally knowing that there is a far sterner critic than you in the room!

If nothing else your DS will learn to sleep through pretty much anything which is no bad thing!

[Karbea]

Anyone awake listening to snoring husbands tonight???