I have been seeing my boyfriend for 3 years and have 3 children with my ex husband who I left as he was abusive and unfaithful. My boyfriend and I have never lived together and my middle daughter has been difficult with him as she is close to her dad and our breakup has been very stressful, however life has calmed down somewhat. My boyfriend is unable to find work in my area as his work is specialised and I am considering moving away to be with him, I love him very much, I've known him for 20 years and want to be with him. I feel very unhappy and hemmed in where I live as there are very few opportunities for work or advancement and there are few people my own age and little to do socially. I feel my children would benefit long term from having a happier mum and being somewhere with greater opportunities and I will hopefully only be moving an hour or two's drive away. My children are 15, 14 and 8, at the moment they spend weekends with their dad, I have always put them first and this is going to be a difficult decision to make as there are so many unknowns, and i don't think my children, ex husband or the rest of my family who live in this area will take the news well, however I don't want to miss an opportunity for happiness. My boyfriend and I have tried to have a long distance relationship for 2 years and he has lived in the same area as me for the last year and neither situation has worked out, he has to move again and I want to try this but I'm petrified as I have never lived anywhere else and nor have my children. Any advice would be really welcome.
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