Dont be sorry.. i've felt better and worse after ranting or opening up on here but ultimately its a safe place to have those moments or feelings, most others here at some point will have felt the same, or supported someone who did, so you're in a good place, surrounded by sisters/best friends who you just haven't met in person.. they won't bullshit you or pat your head but they offer support and a safe rant place. :)
Ok on to your contact sessions, well, his. Who on earth allows them to go on in that manner? Are they supervised?
Definately ask about having his right to apply to the court for orders to be taken away. Its ridiculous that he is able to use the court to continue his abuse in this way.
Who threatens you with prison? The judge? And what for? Contempt of court?
Thats 28 days in prison .. i would love to say trust me they very rarely actually use that especially against a parent with care, but that was back in the day, when i was going through it, the judge mentioned it and my response was 'well i do have contempt..... for the judge not the court she represents, she is not being fair in my opinion' she soon wound her neck in. Just because these people are in high up positions doesn't make them better or decent..
If contact leaves the children distressed and your solicitor won't do as instructed and complain on your behalf about it, sack her on the spot, self rep is fantastic in one way because it enables you to say what you want within reason of course and at that point i would say that the children have chosen not to have contact, the forced contact leaves them distressed and isn't being managed or supervised properly. And what court in the land forces children to suffer.
See what their response is.
The darker side of self repping as i'm sure you're aware is that you're treated like shit on the bottom of the judges' shoe as well as the solicitors present, the court clerk.. everyone, pretty much, lol. They don't like that you have free speech free representation and possibly do better research on the case then them.
Buy beg borrow or steal a copy of the childrens act 1989 and its amendments in i think 2002? .. Quote from it re emotional abuse, when you make your argument about the kids contact.
Find out which of your human rights is being breached by his constant crap which they are allowing you to be dragged through.
I hope you are saved all this by your solicitor stepping up to the plate but imo i found them pretty useless, you're just a file to most of them.
If you're in or around Birmingham i can't recommend Sarah Tierney From Glaysiers highly enough, she went out of her way many times for me but i didn't utilise her, i just wasn't in a good place, but she is like a rotty when she gets started lol bless her :)