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apols for crap typing am on phone
dh has a history of being unpleasant when confronted... sulking, sarcastic tone, inability to accept he is in the wrong and apologise. I suffer with depression an when I've been ill I have frequently avoided confromtation and let things go because I couldnt face his attitude. However there have been times when I have saod something and it always follows the same script.
Last year he seemed to have a road to damascus type experience, he was seriously ill and he said that it made him re evaluate his life, he knew he'd been an arse and wasn't going to take me for granted any more. for the past year things have been great, he's been king, attentive, loving - the odd minor spat but nothing out of the ordinary.
yesterday morning we got up and he went to work as usual. dc turns the telly on. It is tuned to an adult channel. i managed to turn over and thankfully no questions asked by dcs. Nevertheless I'm angry, i dont want my children exposed to adult content, they are young, 7 and 2
o fumed all the way to school and back, when i got home i needed to tell him that I was upset and why, but could't phone so I texted him (I know I know
no response all day. normally he rins at lunchtime to say hi and then again towards the end of the day to let me know when he'll be home. yesterday and today, nothing.
i thought I'd give the new improved dh a chance to respond so when he got home last night i didn't mention it, to see if he would. Nothing, not a word about anything at all other than a breif strained chat about the dc's day.
So tonight I raised it with him and i got back "i didn't appreciate being texted to be told I'm a wanker", "what do you want me to say?" a cleaely forced «well I'm sorrt" followed by a sarky "yeah yeah" when i asked him if he'd been avoiding the issue in the hope that I'd get over it withiut confronting him and everything would be fine
At this point I gave up talking to him and have left him to stew on his own
lesson learned, he will never change.
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mam2mebaybeez · 20/04/2012 23:20
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