I have been in need of a new phone for ages and ages but have been putting it off because money has been tight. Today DH said that enough was enough and ordered me one. I am completely and utterly euphoric because he took the initiative.
We're in the process of arranging joint finances after 9 years together. I've mostly been the breadwinner, but now we have children I work PT and he works FT so for the first time since the pre-DC days our incomes are comparable and it's suddenly made sense to pool them. I'm naturally more cautious and money-conscious and as a result I have involuntarily been the driver of the household finances etc. Once in a while I sit him down and go through all our outgoings and jiggle budgets and he always rolls his eyes and sighs lots.
For the first time I've realised he's looked at the situation, worked out what was possible within our limitations, and made a decision to get something for me. I can't believe how good this feels, like a burden I have never wanted has at long last been willingly shared.
Is this really weird and unusual? I've probably got thus far by sailing past an ocean of red flags, haven't I?
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Does anyone know what I mean about sharing responsibility for grownup stuff?
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badoomtish · 21/10/2011 21:45
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