Namechanged here.
I've just had a really traumatic couple of hours with my partner. Without wishing to go into too much detail, he drinks quite heavily. This has never caused him major problems, i.e. he's never lost a job or relationship over it.
Usually drink just makes him a slightly exaggerated version of himself, slightly louder, slightly funnier etc etc.
Occasionally though, it makes him very angry. He's never laid a finger on me, or, to my knowledge, on anyone else, but he occasionally gets very, very loud in his shouting and slamming things around.
Tonight it all got a bit out of hand and involved the neighbours. My kitchen is covered in broken glass and I can't stop crying. DP is now, thankfully, fast asleep in bed.
The neighbours threatened to phone the police. I'm really worried this will (has?) get totally out of hand and turn into a full blown feud with the neighbours. DP's (drunk) view is that he can do what he likes in his own house and that I should 'back him up' and not 'kowtow' to the neighbours.
I'm just exhausted by it all, tired of being on edge when he drinks, tired of arguing, tired of hangovers.
Don't know what else to say, really. Sounds trite, but everything else about him is really excellent and I don't want to believe something like this will break us up. If anyone has any advice that would be really helpful.
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DP's drinking getting too much
thiscantbeit · 21/08/2011 22:34
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