I can't see clearly what to do and am going round and round.
Have been with partner for 12 years. Two children one almost 6, one 2.
Things not great since children but really not bad and I put a lot down to tiredness (we both work) and adjusting to a big change. One problem was that he never seemed to have much money despite payrises and I felt I was doing everything - house, children, work etc.
I lost sex drive along the way.
Aaaanyway - just after Easter partner started series of revelations.
First, he said that for about a year, ending in Feb, he had been visiting prostitutes. Gave all sorts of reasons for this. Of course I blamed myself for lack of sex drive.
Then he told me he had taken out a 5 year loan to fund this.
Then he told me in fact he had seen prostitutes when in his early 20s (years before we met).
Then he said he had funded this through credit card debt.
Finally, he said that he still had this credit card debt and had been paying interest on it all through our relationship. That, and new loan, why no money ever. Think I have the whole story now.
Simply cannot decide whether it's all over or whether there is a point in trying. Feel so out of touch with my feelings, can't really work out how I feel about him. He is relieved to have told me and says he will be a different person in future. Says he loves me. Children love him and he them.
What to do? many thanks to all who reply
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burntonion · 20/07/2011 19:30
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