I have a partner and as many of you, I imagine, I believe that honesty and open communication is paramount in any relationship. However, can you disclose TOO MUCH? Are there things one shouldn't talk about?
Like ex's. I try not to talk about them.
But there's more than that, deeper issues.
My partner said he didn't have a Nectar card (you know, get points when you buy something at Sainsbury's)... and when I picked up a till slip from him (to do house accounts) I saw he does. Which means that the points are going to his ex wife. Is that Ok, and should I be upset?
I had already asked him to use our Tesco card so we got the points for that, but I ASKED if he had a Nectar card, and he said NO!! Surely that's being dishonest?
When I ask him if he bought sweets for his son, and he says no, and I find out he did, but didn't buy for my kids - is that dishonest?
How far does one go, or is this petty stuff and I should ignore it and carry on?
When I notice these little things I distrust a little more, but I guess we all do stuff that is 'dishonest' now and then... which ones are important though?
Just wondered what other's opinions are...
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How much do you disclose to your husband?
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muminawe · 19/01/2011 14:26
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