Yr 4/5 girls does it get better, the pettiness is driving me and dd mad.

[lexcat]

The final straw was this morning as dd YR4 discarded most of her pants because of the pattern or colour. Turns out she's been teased for wearing certain colour pants.

Dd is so good about the bitching, she has a strong group of friends and teacher says she very easy going and pretty popular. It's just one thing after the other.

I know from other parents I'm not the only one I just what to know when do they start to grow up. Does the pettiness stop or at least get better.

DD's drama group did excerpts from "Mean Girls" for a show and it really was very clever.

I think all girls should watch and discuss...I dealt with this at school by not being part of the "cool" group, but also not being part of the group the cool group ridiculed. I also did not want to be in the cool group. We basically avoided each other in a sort of unspoken truce. They didn't give me any trouble.

I'd also recommend any martial art. Fantastic for body language, self esteem, assertiveness.
It is a fine line though. You need to be challenging enough for them to know they cannot control you, but not challenging enough for them to see you as a threat and try to "take you down" as it were.

I think Glee is quite good for that as well, but again for older girls.

My dd is only 2 by I already worry about her going to school with some of these 'queen bee tyes' I was an independent girl at school and got picked on because I didn't want to fit in with everyone. I'm really glad now that I stayed true to myself because I think it has prepared me better for adult life (self esteem, confidence is better)
I wish all the best to your dd lexcat and hope you manage to get the help you and she need.

sorry 'types' not tyes!

Actually to add, when my daughter was sick on a recent school trip, she said it was the boys who were nice. Who asked how she was etc. Even her so called friends were just annoyed with her for being sick.