a <shock> moment but also a <SMUG>

[nailpolish]

dd1 came home from school today and told me the teacher handed out sweets to all the pupils in the class



BUT dd1 told the teacher "im not allowed sweeties"
she got a sticker instead

i dont know how/what to think...

im surprised at the teacher

[Brangelina]

And NP, I would mention it to the teacher that you disapprove, I certainly would, but then I'm a PITA mummy

[oliveoil]

you could take in some raw carrots to hand out tomorrow

[wildwoman]

It does get hard when they go to school though, dd1 comes home describing other peoples lunchboxes and I'm now all I hear is "but we're allowed chocolate spead sandwiches"

[nailpolish]

thing is, im so shocked - they get free milk and fruit for playpiece every day

[MaureenMLove]

Do you think that maybe its just a new term thing? Surely she can't keep that up all year. I'd mention it at the next parents evening actually, if you feel that strongly about it.

[PrincessGoodLife]

well done, NP girl, for refusing and making mummy happy

I too used to be like her. I was not allowed sweets and used to refuse them because I knew it would make my mother proud of me. Unfortunately as a teenager I did then discover the joy of walking to school with pocket money past sweet shops... whilst still keeping up the pretence in front of my mother . Now my idea of a treat is to have the house to myself, a good book, and a secret bag of sweets.

We are all different though and I am not saying this because it is cast in stone that NP's girl will end up the same.

[prettybird]

You should be proud of your wee girl!

I'm afraid my ds (7) is a lost hope - he'd love to get a swetie!

Having said that, when he was left in the waiting area of John McIntyre's (the jewellers) while dh and I were choosing an eternit ring, (he was able to play his nintendo ds) he only took about 5 Quality Street out of the large jar just stting there. His mum would not have been so restrained!

Am a bit at the teacher, given the healthy school status. I know our school has introudcued a "healthy tuck shop" with no sweeties but fruit and things (what?). They do still have sweeties and other junk (plus fruit) at the Halloween Party.

[nailpolish]

i have a parents evening tonight

[tortoisekinnockSHELL]

nailpolish, you know your dd better than anyone, so I wouldn't presume to assume anything about your dd. I was talking more about dh and his family, who were not allowed sweets. Now dh was a very good little boy, who wanted to make MIL happy, so he wouldn't take sweets or cakes. Once he was about 9 or 10 he really did crave sweets, cakes, chocolate. And he still does. He still has a very sweet tooth and will eat whole packets of liquorice allsorts etc. That's all.

[TheApprentice]

I'm a teacher is Scotland and I'm afraid to tell you I've given out sweets from time to time. . I really do understand where you are coming from, though, and I would never encourage a child who said they were not allowed to take one.

The thing was, I was working in a VERY deprived area with massive behavioural issues and the attitude of the headteacher was "one thing at a time, we need to get the behaviour sorted first, then we can work on the healthy eating." But I take your point, I'm not particularly proud about it.

[Blu]

AHEM!

The Point Is that whatever anyone thinks about sweets and the tactical management of aweet-cravings / health etc etc, Nailpolish's DD towed the line and did what her Mummy would have wanted her to, even though Mummy was out of sight. This is a Very Good Thing, whether it be about sweets of talking to strangers or not throwing your brownie beret in the river, or shouting 'poo head' at other people's Mummies when asked over for tea.

Nailpolish - I am also a bit surprised (but don't fret much about) that DS's school secretary hands out sweets as part of the 'in it to win it' good behaviour in the playground scheme, in what is also a 'healthy School'. But DS doesn't accept them - he really doesn't like chewy sweets.

[nailpolish]

her sweet tooth is satisfied with other things

[MaureenMLove]

There you go then, perfect timing! I'd just say something like, 'do you give sweets out regularly for good behaviour or was it just a one off!' That should be enough to register your grievence!

[tortoisekinnockSHELL]

nailpolish, I'm not having a go at you! I'm sure she'll be fine. I'm talking more about my own policy, based partly on dh's experiences. And he would be the first to admit that it was due to them being a 'banned' thing that he craved them later on. This is NOT to say your dd will be the same. But it does influence MY decisions on what to do with sweets for my kids, so my policy is not to have them at home, in fact I don't think I've ever given them a sweet, but if they get them at school then that's fine.

[nailpolish]

i am jsut proud of her
not because she knows she "not allowed" sweets, or that she refused them just to make ME happy
but becuase she udnestand WHY and can reason that in actual fact, its just nota good idea

[Twiglett]

[ProjectIcarusinhercar]

Breathe Np - look at the nice hedgehoga again.

[Twiglett]

long may it last NP, long may it last

[nailpolish]

got any of htat nice ham, project?

[Piggy]

Would it be worth mentioning at the parents evening?

Personally I'm relaxed about cakes (homemade natch) and chocolate buttons but haribo sweets are the work of the devil.

[Pruners]

Message withdrawn

[sandyballs]

Blu. Do brownies still have berets?

She sounds lovely NP, my DDs were very similar at 4, used to hand me their party bags after a party and say "take all the e numbers out mummy" . But now they are 6.5 it is a whole different ball game, much harder to police their sweetie/junk intake.

[nailpolish]

yes domino cake off course is acceptable

i might mention i t - but i can imagine at the discussion bit (all parents in the gym hall to start with - one to one with teacher after that) if i bring it up - silence descends - pin drops -embarrassed cough
(obv i would mentin it at the one to one bit tho)

[nailpolish]

off course???

of course

[redtoenails]

I don't see the point of making a fuss with the school over it, after all your child didn't want the sweets so no problem. There will be far more important issues to bring up with them at a later date so I would keep my powder dry for those. You'll just come over as a little "precious".