It's good to see great questions being raised here. I found out about this thread via Twitter and thought I could contribute.
We need children to be both fearless and flexible when it comes to lifting the words off the page. We want them to know about the history of the English language leading to the many languages which have influenced our current language - and we want them to know once writing was invented, the mixture of languages and spelling systems led to the English language having the most complex alphabetic code in the world.
To this end, some of you may know already that I provide a varied range of Alphabetic Code Charts - free to download - to inform, train and support various people including parents and including for the learners themselves to understand and use.
Making good use of your preferred Alphabetic Code Chart - both in school and at home - can really support with the incidental phonics teaching which parents can contribute to hugely.
I also provide free posters with suggested 'patter' or 'language' for both reading and spelling purposes. You can take any word at all and for reading purposes, simply say, "In this word, these letters [or letter] are code for the /sh/ sound" (or whatever). So, supply the 'sound' and point out the code.
Once you get used to promoting phonics AS an alphabetic code - that you are teaching 'a code' or that the children 'are learning' the code - then it should go without saying that the teaching and learning is supported with explicit visual aids of 'the code' - hence my constant and heavy promotion of the use of Alphabetic Code Charts to underpin both our systematic synthetic phonics teaching and our incidental phonics teaching.
I go much further than this. I actually base on my fundamental guidance not on 'systematic synthetic phonics' alone, but on 'two-pronged systematic and incidental phonics teaching'.
I write about this via free pdfs which you can find on the 'Free Resources' page at Phonics International. This site also leads to other sites where I provide many free resources and much information - intended not only for the teaching profession but for parents as well.
After all, we're talking about teaching the parents' children.
It should be a shared aim - especially in something so very important as literacy basic skills which is truly life-chance stuff for some children.
So, I have read the comments on this thread and I have had a great deal of empathy with questions about 'pronunciation' when children are endeavouring to decode new and unknown words. The better they know about the history of the English alphabetic code - and that it is very complex and they will need lots of teaching and lots of help with words they don't know - for example, how to come up with an exact pronunciation (according to the region in some cases), then the more fearless and flexible our young learners will be.
They need to be comfortable with the idea that our code is tricky but that by teaching it well, they can have jolly good try at decoding and most words are basically straightforward - especially when underpinned by good spoken language.
If I am allowed to add links to a message, I'm happy to flag up the exact electronic links for the various posters and resources I've mentioned but I don't know what mumsnet allows.
Otherwise, if anyone has an interest in further phonics information - and the 'two-pronged' approach, you can find the resources via the Phonics International website.
All the best,
Debbie
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