I keep churning this over and would welcome objective (if that's possible) views please.
DD Yr 4 told me yesterday that someone lost something in class. Another child said she saw DD pick it up and put it in her coat pocket and went and looked in DD's pocket and had found it. DD denied it, but both other children went to teacher and said what happened.
Teacher spoke to DD who denied all knowledge and then to the accuser. Teacher then told whole class that she wanted the person who took the object, or who knew about it to tell her in a quiet moment. Later that day, teacher announced to class that the child who had taken the item had confessed and that it wasn't DD.
DD naturally upset, this happened, but didn't know who had 'done it' so I popped in today and expressed my concern. The teacher confirmed it wasn't DD, but that as the other child had confessed and been honest about it, they didn't want to make too much fuss about it, but she felt the girl should apologise to DD. I expressed my concern that a 9 year old would be so devious, but would trust them to deal with it. The child that accused DD has previous history of accusing DD of stealing in Year 3 (she was wrong on that occasion too), which was dealt with then by the form teacher, her current teacher wasn't aware of this when I told her.
Tonight DD came home and it transpires the child who confessed to it, is the same child that accused her, it would appear she 'set' DD up for some reason. The child had apologised, but the teacher has asked DD not to tell anyone who it was and this is sitting hard with DD, as she is terrified someone will find out and the teacher will think she told and broke her promise.
Now I am bothered on two counts, firstly that a child would want to 'set up' my child to get them into trouble. This girl is bossy and very 'mature' in a lot of ways, but usually gets on with DD. I am also concerned that the teacher has asked DD not to tell, so basically keep a secret and this doesn't sit well with me.
I would welcome any other thoughts, although not sure I can expect anymore from the school. Am I being silly and overthinking it all?
Sorry for the long post and rambling, but wanted to get it all down!
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Incident at school - your thoughts please
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Tryingnottosink · 28/02/2014 22:30
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