Preschool making son sick

[Deery9may]

I really need some help and advise really as I don't know what to do. My son is 3 he started preschool 2 mornings a week in October and has been doing that ever since (when he has been in) it's a term time only preschool too. The problem is my son is forever poorly not just with a cold or a cough but a virus of some sort that completely wipes him out. I make sure he is 110% before I send him back but within a week we're back to square with this last bout landing him in hospital which made me question this preschool. Also my son has a health issue that needs support this nothing major but this support with help us move forward at home to and I believed the preschool were carrying this out but after a month and a half it turns out they haven't done a thing telling me they are unaware this was the plan when I had gone in for a special meeting to discuss this plan. They never responded very quickly to answer emails or texts when I said won't be in because he in hospital concerned my correspondence wasn't being received I was greeted with an answer of I only work certain hours argh. I asked to look at my sons folder he appears happy and they say he is but the treatment we have received these few weeks are terrible and I wonder if it best to pull him out boost his immune system and look for a new nursery in the mean time. Also I was told I had to start increasing his sessions to use the 15 hours funding as it will prepare him for school when that's not til next sept but as a mum surely it's my choice if I send him for two mornings til he starts school or four mornings to use the 15 hours I just don't know what to do I am so lost

[madwomanbackintheattic]

I think I might be ignoring the family members, tbh. 'Proven'
What support has your consultant requested for toilet training? (Mildly curious, I have a ds that has the same problem, and we didn't require nursery to be doing anything different tbh). The training was done at home, and we supported with suppositories and movicol-type treatment over a number of years (well into school). When you say 'feed back' are you requiring effectively a tick sheet if he had a bowel movement/ accident/ went to the washroom? That type of thing? In two mornings a week anything they can do is pretty minimal tbh. The onus is definitely on you. He would possibly use the washroom once or twice a week at nursery at the most.

Nurseries are festering germ pits. Snot and slobber everywhere. Even the staff come down with bugs in the first few months of each new term because each kid brings a different flavor of germs in and shares them around. They all collect new versions and go home and share them with their siblings. Small children are very friendly and over share everything, good and bad. Chicken pox. Norovirus. All the good stuff as well as the everyday cough and cold.
That said, sure. As the sun comes out and the winter bugs disappear and you move him to a new nursery, you will definitely feel validated that you made the right choice.

I'm slightly confused as to why you would suddenly decide to move him now that he is healthy and thriving though? It seems a bit, odd.

[Deery9may]

I have kept him off nursery for 3 weeks now as he was hospital extremely poorly. My son will not have a bowel movement for 3 weeks at time which can prove extremely painful for him and upsetting and that is why we need feedback if he does any bowel movement in pull ups or toilet we unfortunately even need to know what it is like. That's with up to 8 movicol and other medicine but it has taken us 3 years to get to see a consultant as the gps kept saying its normal now the consultant says different. It's through my son folder I have learnt what he has been up to the nursery have offered no feedback at all regards anything not just toilet training. The bugs I understand there about but when it's every week it's crazy for a child only doing two mornings

[Naty1]

norovirus can survive i think 2 weeks on surfaces
hand foot and mouth can be in kids poop for a month.
chicken pox can be caught in 15 min face to face.
playing outside whatever the weather is unlikely to help as if a child alrewdy has a runny nose or is sickening for something.
also tiredness will weaken the immune system