I'm 31 and feel desperately, achingly broody for a first child. DH I'm not sure has this same overwhelming feeling - perhaps it's a biological clock thing - but he's really keen on starting a family, talks about it often and is 100% up for it in the near future.
Fortunately, as far as we know we have no fertility problems, which I realize makes us luckier than many and I do hope this post won't cause offence because of that.
We have decided that logically we should wait before trying to conceive because;
a) we are trying to buy our first house and haven't yet found one.
b) I currently have a temporary contract, and want to wait until I sign my permanent contract (which will be in next 2 - 5 months) before getting pregnant, otherwise I am afraid that my work may retract the offer of making me permanent.
It's just so hard waiting, when we feel so ready. Being surrounded by friends with kids is bittersweet. When people ask if / when we're having kids it hurts.
Sometimes I think we're being way to cautious, or idealistic, or sensible, and what if it takes us ages to conceive? Maybe we should just go for it and things will fall into place.
Other times I think it's only right that we get these big things lined up and it's only a matter of months to wait. We live in a small flat where we don't see ourselves with kids - we want a proper family home, and I think house hunting against the clock, before the baby's born, could be really stressful.
We don't have a fun 'bucket list' of things we definitely want to do before kids (other than the house and contract) so sometimes it feels rubbish just waiting. We have busy, fulfilling lives - it's not like we have loads of spare time to fill. But the ache for a baby just seems to be overwhelming.
Any tips for how we can feel a bit happier about the wait and turn it into a positive instead of a negative? All the advice I find online is for people who are TTC but not managing to, which is not our situation. Ours is more like 'we don't think we should do it now but the delay is frustrating'.
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Waiting to try to conceive - how to feel better about it?
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ThePartyArtist · 27/04/2016 23:46
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