Did you have a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage? Support needed please x

[aimeeeleanor]

Hey guys

So I had an ERPC on 13th February for a very distressing MMC of our beautiful twins. Multiple negative pregnancy tests approx 2 weeks after procedure.

My period returned on 16th March & I then got a positive pregnancy test on 6th April (CD22) was extremely shocked but obviously very grateful that A) it happened so quickly & B) I got a super early positive test

Been testing a lot & lines have been getting super dark

Obviously our loss has thrown me for a loop, we have a very lovely 21 month old & the twins were our first loss. So it’s strange now experiencing a pregnancy with a sense of fear & dread. Of course you don’t really think about it until it happens to you, a club you never want to be a part of but sadly so many are

I have a scan tomorrow with the NHS, i’ll be 4w6d. Very early but they offered one to try to ease my anxiety / check for ectopic as have been having slight one sided pain. Also going to take HCG bloods

So how many of you went on to have a successful pregnancy almost immediately after a loss. Again the fact that it’s happened so quickly is making me think my body may not have had enough time to heal & recover. I don’t know!

Any words of encouragement appreciated. Thanks all x

[Enough4me]

I did and my DS (my 2nd child, 3rd pregnancy) is now a teenager. I still sometimes think about my scan when a molar pregnancy was found. It was a complete shock ad first pregnancy was fine. After six months tests I had the all clear and fell pregnant straight away despite not eating well and being an emotional wreck.

I was on constant stress throughout my pregnancy and labour with DS. A few weeks after he was born I was pushing him in his pram and was distracted for a moment, when I looked down and saw him in the pram I felt overwhelming relief. I wanted to shout to people "he's here, look he exists!" I finally relaxed!

Although I don't feel raw pain now I remember what it felt like. I really feel for you and wish you well. It can work out and I I know plenty of others over the years who were fine after MC/MMC etc. and DCs are all fine.

[Hippee]

I miscarried with my second pregnancy. The baby would have been born in May. I got pregnant immediately afterwards, and DS2 was born in September. He's a teenager now.

[alrightluv]

I did. Ds2 is 23 now. I started trying straight away.
Best wishes to you OP and your OH 💐

[CelesteCunningham]

Pretty much exactly my story - conceived when DC1 was about 18 months, had a MMC at ten weeks and then conceived the following cycle. That pregnancy was trouble free.

Miscarriage is miserable but it's also very normal and most women I know with two or more children have had one along the way. It's very likely this pregnancy will be fine.

[SgtOliviaBenson]

I did. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 13 weeks. I went on to have dd1, she's 21 now and dd2 who is 17.

[Snowyymum]

my condolences for your loss.
Miscarriage is the hardest thing
I started my 2nd & 3rd pregnancy with a sense of fear- I think being less naive and having friend’s experiences meant I was nervous. My 2nd pregnancy was early loss and 3rd pregnancy was mmc. I remember being angry at myself for getting my hopes up ( as each week had past I had grew more optimistic) and was shattered with the loss experience
But in my most recent 4th pregnancy- when I started to go down fear spiral I told myself ‘worrying will not change the outcome’ and more importantly ‘if the pregnancy ends too early, I will regret not treasuring the previous time I have with baby ‘ . So I really tried to just embrace the love for the baby. It was still worrying and tbh I didn’t start to think ahead until I was 26 weeks
My wee rainbow baby is lying beside me now. 4 months old.

You will be ok
Deep breaths
Be kind to yourself

[DutchsDuchess]

I did. I had a miscarriage in September 08 & DD, my second child, was born in November 09. Apart from bad pelvic pain from early on(also had with my eldest), I had no other issues

[GerryLew]

Sending you love 💗I know it might seem so scary now, but you have to believe it is possible and you will have a healthy pregnancy.
I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks last November. Fell pregnant in January this year and I am now 16 weeks along with a healthy little baby.
In the beginning I was convinced that something WILL go wrong, that my body is not capable of carrying a healthy baby. I didn't have that many symptoms, just nausea, food aversions and maybe a bit of fatigue and I was convinced I will miscarry again. But with every scan and each week passing I was feeling slowly more optimistic and I am now looking forward to my 20 week scan.
Meditate, take deep breaths and remember - different pregnancy and different baby. Everything will be okay 💗🌹

[Luckynumber05]

Same here two sons, three pregnancies. Miscarriage is awful. I ended up having emergency surgery with mine. Miscarried in May and pregnant again in October. Healthy boy born in June. I think I spent most of the second pregnancy in fear that something would go wrong. I hope that all goes well for you and you can relax and enjoy this pregnancy.

[Peonies12]

I lost my first pregnancy last year at 11 weeks. I'm now 16 weeks and all going well. It's no more likely to happen again because had a MC before. But I found the waiting between 4 weeks and 12/13 weeks the longest wait ever.

[OnNaturesCourse]

Similar boat here.

Lost my DC at 16.5 weeks last summer.
Found out I was pregnant on 9th April that year.

This year I find out I'm pregnant on 12th April... I am beyond petrified.

[PiggieWig]

I did - many years ago now. MC on March 15, baby born February 18, so must have been conceived about six weeks after mc.

He’s a strapping young man now and while I sometimes think of the little one that didn’t make it, I’m so happy to have been blessed with my son.

I do remember how nervous I was during my early pregnancy though - it took me a while to feel ‘settled’, unlike my first which was excitement from the start.

[mlc0]

So lovely to read all these positive stories and it gives me some hope. I've just had my 4th MC and it seems so out of reach for me right now

[ladycarlotta]

I've had a lot of miscarriages - 7 in fact, not including a few chemicals - but am currently pregnant again having conceived about 6 weeks after my last loss (ended up a D&C at 13 weeks for RPOC, generally a horrendous experience)... I'm 16 weeks and everything looks to be going well. I know how hard it is to start to entertain the possibility that this one won't end like the last did, but I am beginning to trust that we are nearly out of the woods with this one. My partner is still not quite ready to believe that we will be bringing a baby home in early October, and that's OK too.

I'm so sorry about your twins. There is no reason you can't now carry a pregnancy to term and get to cuddle another baby. Please be kind to yourself. It's such a lot to go through.

[DawnBreaks]

Any pregnancy after a a miscarriage is always a worrying time.I miscarried at about 9 weeks in Sept and my youngest son was born at the beginning of the following August. So virtually got pregnant on my next cycle. So much worry for the first few months but had an easy birth and he was such a placid baby. Sending a virtual hug. 🤗

[H20202]

Two losses back to back in last 8 months. No successful pregnancy past 6 weeks yet sadly.

[HelpMeUnpickThis]

Hi @aimeeeleanor

So sorry for the loss of your precious twins. 💐.

I didn’t conceive quickly after my miscarriage but i wanted to post and comment about the anxiety of carrying a baby after a loss.

It was really hard for me and i requested an ELCS because of my anxiety.

My first “normal” pregnancy with first baby went to 40+12 with lots of false starts.

After losing 1 and then being told this one was measuring small etc etc - the anxiety was just too much and I just couldn’t do that waiting game again so I had an ELCS at 37 weeks - I knew
the date the time etc etc; it just helped me because the anxiety was worse than the earlier delivery.

I would just encourage you to be very open and honest with your healthcare providers and the close people around you. Not to bore everyone but just to share when you are struggling with fear etc

Best of luck.

[MrsCeecee]

So sorry for what you’ve been through ❤️ I had a mmc last year - baby died in February though I didn’t find out till early March, then I had a D&C. Fell pregnant again in April with my beautiful boy, who’s now 3 months old 🥰

[FloofCloud]

Sorry for your losses, but I can confirm that you can indeed fall pregnant again after MMC, as I have done this myself, good luck

[LesLavandes]

Sorry. It's awful. I had a first child all easily and then 6 years later became pregnant. Early miscarriage. A year later I was pregnant again and at 14 weeks lost the baby. We tried once more and had a little boy. Yes. It is traumatic but keep strong and determined